Especially if you are a highly sensitive person, holiday seasons can bring challenges that may make it harder to keep your emotional equilibrium.
In her article “9 Holiday Depression Busters,” Therese Borchard shows how to keep stress levels low and depression and anxiety at bay over the holidays.
Her 9 tips run from the serious “Avoid Toxic People,” and “Make Your Own Traditions,” to the seemingly frivolous, but ingenious, “Travel With Polyester, Not Linen.”
Here’s a sample:
#9: Exercise Your Funny Bone
“‘Time spent laughing is time spent with the gods,’ says a Japanese proverb. So, if you’re with someone who thinks he’s God, the natural response would be to laugh!
“But seriously folks, research shows that laughing is good for your health. And, unlike exercise, it’s always enjoyable! The funniest people in my life are those who have been to hell and back, bought the t-shirt, and then accidentally shrunk it in the wash.
“Humor kept them alive–physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Remember, with a funny bone in place–even if it’s in a cast–everything is tolerable.”
Holiday stress is no laughing matter, but with Borchard’s humor, whimsy and insight, taking care of ourselves can be a gift that will benefit others as well. [Comments by Cat Robson, associate editor of this site.]
Read her article 9 Holiday Depression Busters.
In another post, she suggests:
“If you’re wigged out about spending Christmas dinner with a relative or two who seems to know your trigger button and likes to hit it every time he sees you for giggles and kicks, then do some preemptive planning before your dinner.
“You would be wise to start strategizing before the doorbell rings about where you are going to sit, what conversations you will have, how you will respond to sensitive issues, and boring questions you can ask to fill the uncomfortable voids.
“You might invent five or so canned retorts to be used when unjustly interrogated, or compile a list of necessary exit plans should you reach the about-to-lose-it-in-a-big-way point.
“Visualizations can also help. For example, picture yourself inside a bubble, with an invisible layer protecting you from the toxic stuff on the outside.”
Therese J. Borchard is a mental health writer and activist, Founder of ProjectBeyondBlue.com and author of Sanity Break on EverydayHealth.com.
Also visit her site ThereseBorchard.com.
Read her memoir, “Beyond Blue: Surviving Depression & Anxiety and Making the Most of Bad Genes.
“Fight the commercialization, which affects you as it creeps in, presenting things you can feel expected to do because everyone else does. Think consciously and deliberately how you will make this a meaningful time for you and others.
“At the same time, watch your expectations, fueled by memories and media (and me) that this should be a wonderful family time or especially meaningful spiritually–it may not be possible to find meaning right then, given the stress of the season.
“If you aren’t religious, think about the symbolic/archetypal meaning, always there, in this season of darkness turning to light and the birth of hope.
“Don’t take on too much, especially if you are already doing all you can in the time you’ve got. Make a budget for gifts and food, and stick to it.”
Slow Holidays: A Survival Guide for Sensitives, HSPs and Empaths
by Carol Burbank, Ph.D.
“When we’re sensitive to other people’s emotions and struggles, holidays bring extra challenges. Winter celebrations bring their own craziness, the joy/grief cycle of memory, reunions and rituals that touch everyone to the core.
“Just riding our own rollercoaster is enough! But when we are empathic, we sense everyone else’s wild ride, too!
“It can be overwhelming. It’s hard enough to deal with our own stress, faced with family gatherings, work parties and behind-the-scenes shopping and preparation.
“Here are three tips to slow the holiday rush down so sensitive people can enjoy the ride.”
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Article publié pour la première fois le 13/09/2014