By Cat Robson
I used to think I couldn’t be gifted because I didn’t fit my image of gifted people: geniuses, successful, ambitious, confident, comfortable with themselves and basking in adulation.
I figured because my personality often elicited criticism from others it meant I was hopelessly inadequate and flawed. Surely not gifted.
But what really makes us gifted? In this excerpt from her book, Gifted Grownups, Marylou Kelly Streznewski shakes up our stereotypes about giftedness.
What Makes You Gifted?
They told me I was smart, and I cried. I wanted to be sexy, or glamorous!
I go through life wanting to say to people, “What’s the matter, are you a turtle, can’t you do that faster?”
I learned the whole job in six weeks, and now I’m bored. I guess I’ll have to go back to school.
I’ll give anything a try!
Bernice is wearing a deep red knitted dress, and large, dramatic jewelry; her pepper-and-salt hair is carefully styled.
She stands with an acquaintance in the lobby of a Philadelphia hotel. A group of football-playing behemoths trundles by and she giggles delightedly, “I can’t wait to get home and tell my husband I saw the Eagles!”
Ian has long hair, a beard, and is wearing a paint-stained shirt, fatigues, and work boots. Leaning back in his chair, he raises a bottle of beer and begins a conversation.
Joel walks down the hall of his former high school. A skinny kid, his loose-jointed, bent-kneed stride and his slightly drooping shoulders don’t indicate energy. His jaw is slack, lips slightly parted, eyes seem vacant.
Faith has natural flaxen hair, cut in the latest fashion. She’s wearing big dangling earrings, a gold choker, a plaid shirt, and jeans. She leans over to the boy next to her and whispers in his ear. They giggle for most of a class.
Jonathan has a beard and glasses; he’s a little bit skinny. He has a heavy-looking backpack as he rides his bike across a college campus at 3 A.M. The computer center is less crowded in the middle of the night, so that is when he works.
If you discount appearances and watch what they do, it is easier to spot them.
Bernice is in that hotel lobby because she is making a presentation at a conference. She has a Ph.D., a husband and family, and she heads a department in a major university.
Ian begins that conversation about ballet. He’s dressed that way because he is the director of construction projects. He likes his job because he can design the work himself, and he needs new things to design all the time.
Joel’s eyes look vacant because he hates his glasses and he doesn’t have his contacts in at the moment. His skinny body belies his wicked tennis game. He thinks a lot, partly about his summer job representing his father’s company on the East Coast. At 19, he is a student at a major university and is in that hallway because he has come back to visit some former teachers.
One of Faith’s fascinations in life is clothes. She designs outfits for herself each day and can create any style she desires. She is an accomplished musician, an award-winning writer, a merit scholar, and Harvard, Yale, Brown, Princeton, and Swarthmore all wanted her wide blue-eyed smile to grace their campuses last year. The kid she is giggling with is one of the top sixty young scientists in a large eastern state.
At least Jonathan looks the part; he is an honors scholar at his university, and his appearance fits the stereotype. He is expected to graduate in four years with both undergraduate and graduate degrees.
What do all these people have in common? They have a large capability for seeing patterns, a restless drive to enlarge their world and to know, know, know.
From Gifted Grownups: The Mixed Blessings of Extraordinary Potential by Marylou Kelly Streznewski.
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Article publié pour la première fois le 27/10/2015