Change you can believe in
“A lot of people dream of escaping ‘Dilbert’s world’ and being their own boss. Perhaps the biggest reason these dreams get derailed is money. Or, more accurately, faulty thinking about what it means to make a living.”
Career change author and expert Valerie Young includes herself: “I’m no exception. For a long time I thought before I could take the leap to self-employment, I had to first figure out a venture that would generate the same amount of income as I was then earning.
“Not so, says Barbara Winter, self-bosser and author of Making a Living Without a Job. Winter is an enthusiastic advocate of what she calls ‘multiple profit centers.'”
Energized by a dream stirring our soul, but not making it real; “having” to stay in a job that is not satisfying our deep ambition to express our unique talents – those are ways to keep fear, frustration and anxiety going strong.
Imagining the worst
In her article Six Ways to Overcome Fear, speaker and author Marcia Wieder notes it isn’t necessarily a matter of “getting rid” of those feelings.
“As you get closer to fulfilling your dreams, don’t be surprised if doubt and fear surface,” she writes. “The number-one way we sabotage our dreams is by saying things like, ‘But, what if?’ and imagining the worst. But, what if I… fail, succeed, say or do the wrong thing, don’t make enough money?
“With this thinking, as you move toward your dream, you’ll also move toward your fears and worst nightmares. With too much to risk, most of us give up or never even begin.” She goes on to suggest ways to get past fear.
he so-called bailout; the continuing revelations of how the Bush administration undermined the economy and personal finances; job security being more of a myth than ever; facing foreclosure, and so on.
What impact is it all having on your emotional health?
Now may be the best time to do something about developing a new business, creating a new income stream – and getting anxiety relief.
A Career Coach column in the New York Times starts off this way:
“Q. Day after day of economic turmoil is making it hard for you to concentrate on your work. You can’t stop worrying about your job security, your retirement portfolio and your whole future. Is this normal?
“A. It’s only natural to feel anxious during a financial crisis. But understand that anxiety can distort reality, disrupt thinking and erode performance — unless you take steps to manage it.”
From How to Quell Financial Anxiety, By Phyllis Korkki.
Worriers work worsens
On this site (Talent Development Resources), there are a number of anxiety relief programs and articles about managing anxiety, depression and other challenges.
One of the articles, for example, is How the Sedona Method Helps You in Challenging Financial Times.
It points out, “While it’s understandable that many people are worrying about their job security, this anxiety is only making matters worse.
“For one, anxiety can manifest into physical symptoms like insomnia, muscle tension, fatigue, and headaches — all of which make it nearly impossible for you to put in a full day’s work.
“Further, when you feel anxious about work you tend to perform less efficiently. This not only makes you even more fearful, it could actually single you out as someone who is not a team player or top performer.”
The Sedona Method – the courage under the anxiety
Hale Dwoskin, CEO and director of training of Sedona Training Associates, explains, “When you’re worrying about anything notice what you’re holding in mind. When you worry you’re holding in mind the exact opposite of what you would choose to happen.
“As you let go of your worry what’s right underneath is a feeling of relaxation and courage,” he says. “And when you’re relaxed and courageous you’re more likely to perform at your best and communicate in ways that will make your employer much less likely to choose you as the one to lay off.”
He adds, “In fact, the more you release instead of worry the more likely you will be to be successful at whatever you do.”
The article includes a video: Hale Dwoskin talking about releasing ourselves from guilt, anxiety, depression and other limiting feelings, using the techniques of the Sedona Method.
Comic strip by Scott Adams from Dilbert.com; photo: “Toward Los Angeles, California” 1937. Photographer: Dorothea Lange. Caption: “Perhaps 2.5 million people abandoned their homes during the Great Depression and went on the road.”