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Are You Hiding Behind a Mask?
What to Do If You Don’t Feel Like You Can Be Who You Are
Interview with Hale Dwoskin, CEO and director of training of Sedona
Training Associates, by Sedona.com staff
“Most
of us live behind masks all the time based on the false
assumption that we are somehow safer behind them,” Hale Dwoskin says.
“It is like a little child hiding behind his own hand and actually
believing that his whole body has disappeared,” he says.
These “masks” are there because we have either not figured out who we
are, or because we’re afraid who we are won’t be accepted.
“We feel that people may not like who we truly are so we try and become
what we think they want us to be,” Dwoskin says.
Yet as we all walk around trying to be “normal,” we overlook an
extremely important factor: other people are looking at you as their
“normal” gauge, just as you’re looking at them for yours.
The person who is “you” is exactly what you have created them to be.
Your
experiences, your beliefs, your motivations and your actions have
shaped you into who you are.
Yet,
when you hide behind a mask and try
to act out of alignment with who you really are, you will begin to feel
uneasy.
“When you’re afraid to be who you really are, you lose touch with the
truth of who you are and act in ways you may later regret,” Dwoskin
says.
“You’ll
also feel uncomfortable in your own skin because you know
you are not being genuine.”
So why do so many of us feel uneasy speaking up for our beliefs and
living our own lives, while dreading the thought of not fitting in?
Because we are afraid that somehow we are inferior to those around us,
and we lack the confidence to believe otherwise.
Yet if you really think about the worst thing that could happen if you
feel free to be yourself -- that someone may not accept you -- it’s
really not so bad.
After
all, if you can’t be genuine with someone, why
do you want to be around them?
If your fears and insecurities make it difficult for you to be who you
are, use The Sedona Method to release them.
You
see, when you let go of
your need to be how others want you to be, the sense of contradiction
within you will disappear.
And
you will then feel your inner confidence
shining through.
“Your best approach is to let go of wanting to be the way others want
you to be so you can simply be yourself,” Dwoskin says.
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From
the Sedona Training site.
Hale Dwoskin is the author of the New York Times Best Seller, The
Sedona Method: Your Key to Lasting Happiness, Success, Peace and
Emotional Well-being.
Hale
is one of the 24 Teachers from the movie The Secret and a
founding member of the Transformational Leadership Council.
He is
the
CEO and Director of Training of Sedona
Training Associates  .
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