You may be the most honest person in the world with others, but we all tend to have the hardest time admitting the most difficult truths to ourselves. We're of course not setting out to sabotage ourselves. Most of the time we are not even aware that we are lying to ourselves, or denying the truth, until things really come to a head (i.e., until things get messy, frustrating, really tense, etc.) And of course we therefore DO sabotage ourselves by never admitting - never facing - the truth.