Do you think people resist change? … Most people answer with an emphatic: “Yes.” I don’t think people resist change at all. To which you might respond: “Well if people don’t resist change, why do most people not change when given reason to change?”

After helping hundreds of people with a fear of public speaking totally eradicate that fear, we discovered that there are only a few beliefs that cause the fear.
Mistakes and failure are bad.
If I make a mistake or fail I’ll be rejected. 
What I have to say is not important.  etc

Mike had become a wealthy entrepreneur, but he had a hard time enjoying his business success because it seemed that every minute he wasn’t solving a business problem he was worried about what others thought of him and what he could do to get their approval. Janet probably had as many good ideas as Mike, but because she was plagued with procrastination, she was nowhere near as successful. Stories like these from our clients go on forever. We’ve heard tens of thousands of them. It seems as if no one really escapes having a low sense of self-esteem, a negative sense of oneself, a little voice in one’s head that is constantly critical of oneself.

Some people are convinced we create our own reality by focusing on what we desire with strong emotion. Others are just as convinced that that idea is New Age nonsense. But regardless of which position is valid, it is unquestionably true that we literally create new possibilities in our lives—a brand new reality—by eliminating limiting beliefs. Let me give you an example. Assume you had the beliefs: I’m not lovable. Relationships don’t work.

Most of us are concerned about what others think about us and we say and do things just to get the approval of others.  These thoughts and behaviors seem to be so much a part of who we are and are so common in others that we assume that they are just part of being human. In fact, however, you can eradicate these thoughts and behaviors forever.

Most people think upsets and suffering are inevitable.  They aren’t. In fact, there are two different techniques that will dissolve your upsets and suffering. Let me start with an assertion that I will explain: All upsets result from experiencing yourself as a victim.

Would you like to get rid of the anxiety or anger you feel much of the time? Because many emotions are caused by beliefs, getting rid of the beliefs can frequently eradicate negative emotions. For example, the belief that “Dogs are dangerous” will result in an emotion of fear when confronting a dog. The belief “People can’t be trusted” will result in the feeling of suspicion around people. When the beliefs are eliminated, the emotions usually will be also.

"Yeah, sure," you might say. "And how exactly am I supposed to get rid of all the stressful things in my life?" Here's how I answered that question for myself. I was filled with anxiety for most of my life. I worried about what people thought of me, I was worried about not having enough money, and I worried about my mother who was having a difficult time after divorcing my father when I was three. If worry causes stress, I was as stressed as a person could be...

My experience is that for, oh, 70 to 80% of the people, when the beliefs go away, they never come back. So, there’s no thinking about it, there’s no working on it. When you get rid of the belief ‘I’m not good enough’ and, or whatever the beliefs happen to be, and all the beliefs that cause the given problem, the problem goes away, and the beliefs don’t come back.

It took Shelly and me weeks of going over the notes I took on the plane to figure out the formula for eliminating beliefs.  Then, using the process we formulated, I eliminated a bunch of negative limiting beliefs. The beliefs I eliminated enabled me to look at my then desperate financial situation as an opportunity rather than a problem, and then find a way to take advantage of the opportunity.