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9 Steps to
Unshakeable Confidence
By Dr Jill Ammon-Wexler
Advisor to key executives
What is confidence? According to
Webster's dictionary, it's "having no uncertainty about one's
abilities."
Have you ever wondered why some people seem totally self-confident,
while others are in almost total lack?
Actually - no one is born confident. Confidence is built through life
experience, and especially the feedback you receive as a youngster
about your experiences. If you receive (and collect) a lifetime of
negative believes about your own abilities, then you will have low self
confidence.
It's true that some people are naturally extroverted -- naturally bold
and outgoing. Others seem to be more naturally introverted, and tend to
be more caution in life.
But the fact is -- extroverts are not always self-confident, and
introverts do not necessarily lack confidence. Both extroverts and
introverts can have unwavering certainty about their own abilities --
the most basic sign of confidence.
Nine Steps to Self-Confidence
1. Gain some new skills
Building some new personal or career skills will always strengthen your
confidence. What would you like to improve? If you would like to speak
before others with more confidence, consider joining a Toast Master's
group. Take action and reach out to expand yourself.
2. Recognize your own successes
Nothing builds confidence like success, but too many of us fail to
appreciate and recognize our own successes. You know how you feel when
someone else compliments you for something you've done well. Make it a
point to personally recognize your own successes, no matter how small
they may seem.
3. Believe in your potential
You may not today be the person you wish to be -- but believing in your
potential will help you move in that direction. If you want to achieve
something notable in your life, you absolutely must believe in your own
potential. Just take it on faith at first, and seek out your personal
purpose for living.
4. Learn from your setbacks
Everyone experiences disappointments and set backs, and it&Mac226;s
just human to become discouraged at times. But you can use setbacks as
positive experiences if you view them as learning experiences. Meet
your challenges head on, and focus on your intended outcome - not on
the obstacles.
5. Get some support
Turn to experts in the areas where you want to build more confidence.
You can find expertise in books, ezines, articles, courses, videos,
seminars, or even lectures. If you're really serious, get a
professional coach to hold you accountable for taking the necessary
actions to achieve your goals.
6. Show confidence in others
Just as like attracts like, confidence also attracts confidence. The
more confidence you show in others, the more confidence they will show
in you. The more recognition you give others, the more
confidence-building recognition you will receive.
7. Act as if
Acting "as if" is one of the most powerful life-changing tools known to
mankind. Since your unconscious mind cannot tell the difference between
what is "real" and what is "acted" -- the more confident you act, the
more convinced your powerful subconscious mind will become that you ARE
confident. See yourself living with courage and strong conviction.
8. Expect to be confident
Expectation has often been called "faith in action." Expect that you
will act confident, and your mind will produce the actions you expect.
Expect to be confident, and you will truly become confident.
9. Go On a "Mission"
Whatever you believe to be true IS the truth for you. If you do not
believe in your own self and your abilities -- that belief becomes your
own internal truth. Remember Webster's definition of confidence:
"having no uncertainty about one's abilities."
Uncertainty equals low self-confidence. It's that simple. If you lack
confidence, a good personal mission would be to discover your own
unique personal strengths. We all have them, and YOU are no exception.
The truth is, none of us ever reaches our maximum capacity. At its
best, life is an on-going process of learning and expansion. A basic
key to developing unshakable confidence is to know yourself -- your
TRUE self.
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article provided courtesy of
author -
Dr Jill Ammon-Wexler, Pioneer brain/mind researcher -
see her site: Quantum-Self
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