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Are You Your Own Worst Enemy -- a.k.a. Self-Sabotage
By
Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD
How often have you given up doing something even before you gave
yourself an honest chance of succeeding?
Perhaps you started a redecorating project or writing a novel. You
purchased all the necessary items and then never painted or wallpapered
the room because you thought you couldn’t do it perfectly.
You
wrote the outline, table of contents and the introduction to your
novel, without giving your literary talent a chance to flourish you
abandoned it, because you think no one will read it.
You begin a diet. Within a few days, you revert to your normal eating
habits because you didn't see immediate results.
Because of your past experiences when you have not achieved all that
you wanted, you only remember getting bombarded with more and more work
when you thought the project would take only a few days. You think the
next project will end up the same, so you don’t begin or you slack off
and let the fruits of our dreams fade away.
You need to become an expert at getting out of your own way when it
comes to achieving your dreams. After all, you’ve gotten in your own
way over and over for years.
We sabotage ourselves in any number of ways by our thoughts.
- I'm not good enough: On Monday, a group of students will be given a
lecture by the worst teacher. The worst actor will star in a
made-for-television movie. And the worst boy band will put on a mini
show for friends and family in their garage.
I
don’t have any more talent than them, you say. What if the boys
who became the Beatles had stopped practicing in Ringo’s
garage—because, they thought they weren’t good enough.
- No one will be interested: Just look around at some of the things you
see on television or read in newspapers or books or magazines. It is
amazing some things have lasted this long—you intone.
What
if J.K. Rowling of Harry Potter fame would have told herself—No one
will be interested, so why bother writing this novel.
- I'm too old/young: Colonel Sanders was sixty-five when he began his
Kentucky Fried Chicken restaurant. He died a multimillionaire.
Phyllis Diller was 40-something when she became a star as a
comedian—old by industry standards at the time.
Diller
achieved a record that still stands today in the Guinness Book of World
Records for delivering 12 punch lines per minute.
Anne
Frank was a young girl when she wrote her diary which is still
published and continues to be read throughout the world by the next
generation.
- I don't know what I want to do: You may not know exactly what you
want to do, but there is something in the back of your mind that is
important.
Especially
if you know you're not happy in what you're doing now, you know there's
more you want out of life. Do whatever your heart desires and see where
it leads you.
- I want to do too much: No one says you can't do a little of
everything. Just pick one that will set the groundwork for the others.
Find the common thread in the things you like, and start there. You can
branch off once the foundation is in place.
-The universe is against me: Hm-m-m-m—Not at all. Once you set your
mind to something and begin heading in a direction, the universe will
open up in ways you can't see right now.
People
will come into your life, events will take place, and you will begin to
see more light at the end of the tunnel each day. But you have to make
the first moves.
Nothing
takes place for you unless you do something. Do something, even if it
is wrong, you can learn from that. Thomas Edison was asked if he
was discouraged because he had 100 failures in his quest to invent the
light bulb.
“Discouraged!
Edison exclaimed, I am closer to inventing the light bulb, I already
know 100 ways how not to invent a light bulb, the next idea may be the
one that works.”
- Motivational speaker Les Brown in his book "It's Not Over Until You
Win," tells a story of a keynote speaker at a National Speakers
Association conference he attended.
The
speaker was perhaps the worst speaker Les had ever heard. The man spoke
in a monotone voice and was dull as a butter knife. By the end of his
presentation, more than two-thirds of the audience had walked out.
The
speaker, noticing this said something that pretty much sums up the
message of this article. "The reason I am up here (Doing) and you are
sitting down there (watching) is because I represent the thoughts you
have rejected for yourself."
Give yourself a chance, get out of your own way and persevere.
Perseverance pays off. If Edison could invent the first light bulb
after 100+ non workable prototypes, you can create what you want
too. It isn’t the amount of genius, it is the amount of
perseverance.
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Dorothy
M. Neddermeyer, PhD, author, international speaker and
inspirational leader. Dr. Neddermeyer empowers people to view life's
challenges as an opportunity for Personal/Professional Growth and
Spiritual Awakening. http://www.drdorothy.net
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