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 Am I An Emotional Vampire? How Do I Know? by Judith Orloff, MD We’ve all
got a smidgeon of vampire in us, especially when we’re stressed. So,
cut yourself a break. It’s
admirable to admit, “I think I’m emotionally
draining people. What can I do?” Can’t be
free without such honesty.
Then you can change. These are
some common indications that you’re
becoming a drainer. People avoid you or glaze
over during a conversation
You’re self-obsessed You’re often negative You gossip or bad-mouth people You’re critical, controlling You’re in an emotional black hole, but won’t get help -- this strains relationships and won’t free you For
instance, one patient in computer graphics kept hammering his wife
with a poor-me attitude about how he always got stuck with boring
projects at work. Instead of
trying to improve the situation, he just
kvetched. She
started dreading those conversations, diplomatically
mentioned it to him. This motivated my patient to address the issue
with his supervisor, which got him more stimulating assignments.
Similarly,
whenever I slip into vampire mode, I try to examine and
alter my behavior or else discuss the particulars with a friend or a
therapist so I can change. Don’t
hesitate to seek assistance when
you’re stumped. Also, review the types of emotional vampires in
Emotional Freedom (The Narcissist, The Victim, The Controller, The
Criticizer, The Splitter) to make sure you’re not one of them.
Judith Orloff MD is a
psychiatrist and author of Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself From
Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life, upon which this article is
based. Dr. Orloff synthesizes the pearls of traditional medicine with
cutting edge knowledge of intuition, subtle energy, and spirituality.
For Judith’s complete book tour schedule and more inspiration visit www.drjudithorloff.com EMOTIONAL FREEDOM BOOK TOUR SCHEDULE APRIL, 2009 April 15, 2009 – Talk and Booksigning 7:30PM Emotional Freedom Book Tour Berkeley, CA First Congregational Church www.fccb.org April 17, 2009 – Talk and Booksigning 12:30PM Emotional Freedom Book Tour San Francisco, CA Stacey’s 531 Market St, San Francisco For information: 415-421-4687 www.staceys.com April 19, 2009 – Talk and Booksigning 1:00PM Emotional Freedom Book Tour San Francisco, CA Book Passage 51 Tamal Vista Blvd, Corte Madera, CA (near San Francisco) For information: 415-927-0960 www.bookpassage.com
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Also see her related article Protect Yourself from Energy Vampires.
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