Creative and Self-critical
by Douglas Eby
can help refine our talents and creative projects in the
pursuit of excellence. But when it is based on a
excessive perfectionism or an unrealistic self concept,
criticism can be destructive and self-limiting, eroding
our creative assurance and vitality.
Winslet has admitted that before going off to a
movie shoot, she sometimes thinks, "I'm
a fraud, and they're going to fire me... I'm fat; I'm
dissatisfaction with themselves; they see what 'ought
to be' in
themselves... They have a vision of perfectionism that
they measure themselves against and they can become
despondent sometimes even depressed, at their perceived
when their painting or book or movie does not come
together quickly or "perfectly"
enough, they can be harshly critical of themselves.
Safran Foer, author of the novel Everything Is
Illuminated, said, "I
can be very hard on myself. I convince myself that I'm
fooling people. Or, I convince myself that people like
the book for the wrong reasons."
praised for "The Piano" and other films, once commented,
"I never have had the confidence to approach film making
thought it was something done by geniuses, and I was
very clear that I wasn't one of those."
with exceptional abilities experience a mix of complex
feelings including inadequacy and inferiority, and
don't you slow down?"
scene, he expresses impatience with her self-assurance:
"You are such a
she comes right back with, "Yes,
I am smart, but it has nothing to do with my ass."
does that really mean? Too sensitive for what? Maybe it's
just there are situations that cause you more discomfort
than you want to put up with.
Brenneman [star of "Judging
Amy" and many
other TV projects and movies] once said, "I'm
too sensitive to watch most of the reality shows. It's
so painful for me."
being sensitive, after all, can be a virtue for anyone.
2001 Valerie Young,
developed the program "How
to Feel as Bright and Capable as Everyone Seems to Think
You Are: Why Smart Women (and Men) Suffer from the
Impostor Syndrome and What to Do About It."
asking for - and
getting - raises.
Corporate execs who had participated in a workshop as
students told of being so transformed that years later
they asked me to address their employees.
played small for years became prolific. People who had
lacked the confidence to start or grow a business
suddenly found the courage to go for it."
is from an online version of her program:
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Related posts on Self-criticism
Related articles :
The Impostor Syndrome - Finding a Name for the Feelings, by Dr. Valerie Young
Emotional intensity in gifted children - by Lesley Sword
The Inner Critic - by Sharon Good
Negative self-talk - by Douglas Eby
Psycho-social Needs: Understanding The Emotional, Intellectual and Social Uniqueness Of Growing Up Gifted - By Lesley Sword
Soothing Anxious Thoughts about Work - by Deanne Repich
Related books :
Actualizing Talent: A Lifelong Challenge - by Joan Freeman
The Gifted Adult - by Mary-Elaine Jacobsen
Gifted Grownups: The Mixed Blessings of Extraordinary Potential - by Marylou Kelly Streznewski
Growing Up Gifted - by Barbara Clark
The Highly Sensitive Person - by Elaine Aron
Talented Teenagers : The Roots of Success and Failure - by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi et al.
The Theatrical Juggernaut: The Psyche of the Star - by Monroe Mann
Some related sites / pages :
Main site: Talent Development Resources
books: anxiety relief
intensity / sensitivity
intensity / sensitivity resources
self-esteem / self concept
self-esteem / self concept resources
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