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Being With What Is
by
Jennifer Louden
I've been observing the tremendous power our interpretations of events
have to influence our bodies, our moods, and our ability to be present
and notice what is.
An example: My knee started hurting a few years ago. Having had my
share of knee injuries and two surgeries, I quickly assumed (or
interpreted) the pain to mean something was seriously wrong with my
knee.
I told
myself my days of being a yoga queen were over and I might as well
forget the book I've been cooking on the back burner about movement and
creativity.
I stopped exercising. I ignored my knee and my body, told myself I was
getting old and beat myself up for not being able to participate in
extreme sports. (Never mind that I don't like extreme sports. I should
be able to do those wild things anyway.)
Then, I finally went to an orthopedic doctor to have my knee checked
out (or to substantiate my assessment of disaster). He offered me his
interpretation (based on x-rays, hands on tests, and his opinion) that
my knee was in solid shape.
What I
was probably experiencing was "wear and tear", (sounds like I've gone
through the wash cycle a few too many times) and perhaps a small tear
in my cartilage.
Oh.
Given his assessment, my mood and my ability to be in and move my body
changed - instantly. Suddenly, I was (literally) leaping around his
office, flexing that joint, calculating how many yoga classes I could
get in this week.
My
interpretation of the sensation in my knee had changed - the twinge,
the catch, the discomfort was no longer "serious," it was just wear and
tear. YET THE SENSATIONS WERE THE SAME.
This is all so fascinating. Look at the power of our minds to decide
what is or is not possible!
Before
I walked into the doctor's office, I
was carrying a heavy story that I was broken and doomed. 10 minutes
later, I was ready to climb Mt. Rainer. And nothing physical had
changed.
Instead of saying to myself, "Hmm... This is a new sensation in my
knee. Let me take a moment to feel this. Hmmm... When I stand I feel
something different, a catch. And my knee feels like I don't want
anybody to touch it." That is all that is. Everything else is an
interpretation, an assessment, a story.
If I remain in the sensation of my knee, without having to decide what
it is, the field of possibilities is huge, perhaps limitless.
Yet
over and over again, I assess, I limit, I decide and I think THIS IS
THE WAY IT IS. THIS IS THE TRUTH.
I must remind myself (constantly) that I am making an assessment of
what is and my assessment is only one possible choice. There are many
possible choices.
Some
assessments are well grounded (my assessment about my knee is now based
on the information from my doctor) but are still not the TRUTH.
If we
believe it is the truth, we put a lot of energy into backing up our
theory, which often then creates it (self-fulfilling prophecy, anyone?).
Nobody really knows what is going on with my knee unless someone opens
it up, and even then we could have some disagreement.
Forgetting
that I am making assessments and subsequent choices can be costly, for
at the very least, it takes me out of the present, and at the very
worst, it leads me to live my life within a very limited and limiting
box.
Paying attention to what is means we must stop and be in the present
moment. It asks us to become more comfortable with not knowing, with
not having a pat answer or action to take, simply noticing what is
happening in our body or our mood or our relationships - to observe the
world.
It is
human nature to interpret and assess ourselves, other people, and
events constantly - and that's okay, it is one of the ways we stay safe
and take care of our complex lives.
It is when assessments run our lives without us questioning whether
they have any grounding and without us paying attention to what we are
experiencing that we lose our ability to create our lives.
Self-care is rooted in paying attention to what is. Truly.
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Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Jen_Louden
Jennifer
Louden is a best-selling author of five books, including her
classic, The Woman's Comfort Book, and her newest, Comfort Secrets for
Busy Women. She's also a creativity and life coach, creator of the
Inner Organizer, and a columnist for Body + Soul Magazine. She leads
retreats on self-care and creativity around the country. Hear her live
on Martha Stewart Living Radio, Sirius Channel 112 every Sunday at 8 am
Pacific, 11 am Eastern.
Visit
her world at: ComfortQueen.com
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