menu
~
~
|
How Not to Choke Under Pressure (and Why
People Often Do)
By Sedona
Training Associates staff and Hale Dwoskin
It is
your natural state to be calm, cool and collected.
This
may sound hard to believe, particularly if you face high-pressure
situations (being questioned by your boss, backed into a corner by your
mother-in-law, or sitting in bumper-to-bumper traffic on your way home
from work) on a regular basis.
Still, you are meant to be in control, smooth and, dare we say it –
serene.
Why is it, then, that when you’re under pressure, your heart rate
quickens, you break out into a sweat, that big vein in your neck begins
to throb, and perhaps worst of all, mentally you feel like your brain
has turned into a giant mound of ice cream and no matter how hard you
try to think quick and act confident, your thoughts get stuck.
The reason is disarmingly simple: doubts. Doubts from your own head.
 Though you may not realize it yet, your thoughts are
extremely powerful, and they manifest into reality.
So if
you worry yourself into a tizzy, there’s little chance that your
actions will display anything other than fear, anxiety, uncertainty and
reluctance.
“Your emotions are keyed to what was and what might be, rarely what
actually is here now. So when you feel pressured in any situation it
does not matter whether or not there is actually any reason to feel
that way in this moment.
"Your
emotions can choke you up based on what you remember about the past
that you did not like and because of what you are projecting into the
future that you want to prevent,” says Hale Dwoskin, CEO and director
of training of Sedona Training Associates.
Yet, even as your emotions are running wild imagining all of those
“what if” occasions, your natural ability to feel peaceful and calm is
completely unfazed.
“Your ability to be at peace is completely non-dependent on
circumstances -- no matter how stressful they may seem,” says Dwoskin.
To tap into your calm inner self, all you need to do is get rid of the
racing thoughts, mind chatter, and negative emotions that are clouding
your way.
“Your negative emotions can be released and you will find that you
perform even better without the feeling of pressure,” Dwoskin says.
“The
best way to do this is to embrace however you feel in this moment and
then let it go as best you can. As you release you will find that the
inner pressure subsides and may even disappear.
"You
will also find that any feeling of being choked up or unable to perform
at your best will disappear as you let go.”
If you’re not yet sure how to release, The Sedona Method is a highly
recommended tool. The Method will show you how to release negative
emotions so that you will always be in control, and not vice versa.
As you let go of your negativity, you will naturally stop expecting the
worst (another thing that tends to lead to more trauma than the event
itself) and stop “preparing” yourself mentally for a problem, when
often none exists.
It’s hard to put a price on the ability to stay calm and cool, but the
following benefits will give you some idea of its value:
* Increased confidence and focus (no one will be
able to push your buttons)
* More free time (no more fretting over the small stuff, or the large
stuff)
* Improved productivity (all of your efforts will be in a positive
direction)
* Greater self-esteem and well-being (YOU are in control of how you
feel)
* No more emotional energy wasted, no more negativity clouding your
success
So before you waste another second letting life dictate your state of
mind, let go of your negative emotions and become free to feel
confident and at the top of your game no matter what situation comes
your way.
~ ~ ~
From
the Sedona Training site.
Hale Dwoskin is the author of the New York Times Best Seller, The
Sedona Method: Your Key to Lasting Happiness, Success, Peace and
Emotional Well-being.
Hale
is one of the 24 Teachers from the movie The Secret and a
founding member of the Transformational Leadership Council.
He is
the
CEO and Director of Training of Sedona
Training Associates  .
~ ~ ~
The Changing Heart
Rhythms image refers to the Freeze-Framer
program [not from Sedona] -
"Emotions are the next frontier to be
understood and conquered. To manage our emotions is not to drug them or
suppress them, but to understand them so that we can intelligently
direct our emotional energies and intentions...
"It's time for human beings to grow up emotionally, to mature into
emotionally managed and responsible citizens. No magic pill will do it."
Doc Childre - founder of the Institute of HeartMath - which makes
the biofeedback program Freeze-Framer.
|
 
"Through my work with Chicken Soup for the Soul and through
my
Self-Esteem Seminars, I have been exposed to many self-improvement
techniques and processes. This one stands head and shoulders above the
rest for the ease of its use, its profound impact, and the speed with
which it produces results.
"The Sedona Method is a vastly
accelerated way of letting go of feelings like anger, frustration,
jealousy, anxiety, stress, and fear, as well as many other problems
even physical pain with which almost everybody struggles at one time or
another."
Jack Canfield, Co-Creator of the #1 New York Times
best-selling series Chicken Soup for the Soul and the author
of The Success Principles
|
"The Sedona Method is by far the most
powerful way to
make big changes in all aspects of your life through the simple act of
'letting go.'
"In the beginning it feels so easy that one feels the need
to make it more complicated than it actually is. That is the
perfect
time to surrender and trust that some great things just get to be easy."
Mariel Hemingway, actress and author of Finding
My Balance
|
|
Some related
Talent Development Resources pages: