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How To Stop Absorbing Other People’s Negative Emotions
by Judith Orloff, MD
In my new
book Emotional Freedom, I emphasize the importance of learning how to
stay centered in a stressful, highly emotionally charged world.
emotions such as fear, anger, and frustration are energies, you can
potentially “catch” them from people without realizing it.
tend to be an emotional sponge, it’s vital to know how to avoid taking
on an individual’s negative emotions or the free-floating kind in
twist is that chronic anxiety, depression, or stress can turn you into
an emotional sponge by wearing down your defenses.
you become hyper-attuned to others, especially those with similar pain.
empathy works; we zero in on hot-button issues that are unresolved in
energetic standpoint, negative emotions can originate from several
sources. What you’re feeling may be your own; it may be someone else’s;
or it may be a combination.
explain how to tell the difference and strategically bolster positive
emotions so you don’t shoulder negativity that doesn’t belong to you.
wasn’t something I always knew how to do.
up, my girlfriends couldn't wait to hit the shopping malls and go to
parties, the bigger the better--but I didn't share their excitement.
felt overwhelmed, exhausted around large groups of people, though I was
the matter with you?" friends would say, shooting me the weirdest
All I knew
was that crowded places and I just didn't mix. I'd go there feeling
just fine but leave nervous, depressed, or with some horrible new ache
Unsuspectingly, I was a gigantic sponge, absorbing the emotions of people around me.
patients, I’ve also seen how absorbing other people’s emotions
can trigger panic attacks, depression, food, sex and drug binges, and a
plethora of physical symptoms that defy traditional medical diagnosis.
Centers for Disease Control and Prevention report that more than two
million Americans suffer from chronic fatigue.
It’s likely that many of them are emotional sponges.
some strategies from Emotional Freedom to practice. They will help you
to stop absorbing other people’s emotions.
To detach from other people’s negative emotions:
yourself: Is the feeling mine or someone else’s? It could be both. If
the emotion such as fear or anger is yours, gently confront what’s
causing it on your own or with professional help.
try to pinpoint the obvious generator.
instance, if you’ve just watched a comedy, yet you came home from the
movie theater feeling blue, you may have incorporated the depression of
the people sitting beside you; in close proximity, energy fields
is true with going to a mall or packed concert.
on the side of not wanting to offend strangers. In a public place,
don’t hesitate to change seats if you feel a sense of depression
imposing on you.
exhaling negativity, inhaling calm. This helps to ground yourself and
purify fear or other difficult emotions.
negativity as gray fog lifting from your body, and hope as golden light
entering. This can yield quick results.
palm there as you keep sending loving-kindness to that area to flush
longstanding depression or anxiety, use this method daily to strengthen
this center. It’s comforting and builds a sense of safety and optimism.
form of protection many people use, including healers with trying
patients, involves visualizing an envelope of white light (or any color
you feel imparts power) around your entire body.
it as a shield that blocks out negativity or physical discomfort but
allows what's positive to filter in.
hopeful people. Hear the faith they have in themselves and others.
relish hopeful words, songs, and art forms. Hope is contagious and it
will lift your mood.
strategies to cope, you can have quicker retorts to stressful
situations, feel safer, and your sensitivities can blossom.
Judith Orloff MD is a psychiatrist and author of Emotional Freedom, upon which this article is based. Dr. Orloff synthesizes the pearls of traditional medicine with cutting edge knowledge of intuition, subtle energy, and spirituality.
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Related Talent Development Resources pages:
Podcast (audio) interview with Judith Orloff by Douglas Eby
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