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Movies to explore our inner life
From the
Emotional Freedom Techniques site
Using
movies to enhance and test our work.
Hi Everyone,
Silvia Hartmann-Kent (from the UK) brings us a quality idea (using
movies) for finding aspects, digging up core issues and testing our
work.
I've used this myself with great success. For example, I once asked an
African-American man (who had many slavery-type negative issues) if he
had ever seen the TV series "Roots" (which contained atrocious white
behavior towards blacks during the U.S. slavery era).
He
said he couldn't watch it because of all the negative emotions and
fears it brought up. I then proceeded to apply EFT for him over the
phone for this and several related issues.
After several sessions, he had no problem renting Roots and watching
the entire thing. Instead of his usual fear-based response, he reported
feeling a sense of pride for his race and all they had to endure.
In
this instance, watching a movie provided an outstanding test of the
work we had done.
Movies
offer many possibilities.
For
example, traumatized war veterans could watch Private Ryan or the war
scenes from Forrest Gump as a way to test the completeness of the EFT
process.
Snake
phobics could watch the snake scene from Raiders of the Lost Ark for
the same purpose.
There
are many movies depicting rape, guilt and grief that offer quality
assistance in our work.
Further,
they are all on video tape and be played and replayed at home or in the
office. Professionals might want to consider having a library of movies
as an aid to helping clients.
We owe a thank you to Silvia for her insights.
Hugs, Gary
[Gary Craig is Founder
of Emotional Freedom Techniques - the "work" he refers to in his
original title 'Using movies to enhance and test our work.' The title
'Movies to explore our inner life' is mine (Douglas Eby). The term
'tapping' below is part of the EFT therapy approach.]
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Going To The Movies
by Silvia Hartmann-Kent
Isn't it strange how various
problems and their solutions seem to come in waves?
I find
sometimes that a client comes my way with a most unusual problem that I
have very rarely or never before encountered, and before the week is
out, three more occurrences of exactly the same thing have appeared as
if by magic.
A couple of weeks ago I was talking on the phone to a young man who has
been seriously depressed since he was quite young (age 9 or 10) and who
has been tapping religiously for about a year now.
This
has helped him to a degree so that he has been able to take up a part
time job. But, as he put it, the depression was "still lurking just out
of arm's reach."
For no good reason, I started to talk about StarTrek and, in
particular, Deep Space 9, which is my favourite.
He
told me that he had stopped watching it following an episode involving
Captain Sisco and his son which had upset him terribly, so much so that
he had been crying for three days after seeing it.
Now it has long been my contention that movies and TV are the most
wonderful aid in personal development, because your likes and dislikes
are so clearly reflected back to you by your own emotional responses to
what goes on there on the silver screen.
Many
times our deepest angers,
fears and all manner of emotions that we can't even put a label to are
really out of reach during our every day lives; they are hidden away so
that we don't have to deal with them and so we don't even know we have
these emotions.
Then we watch a TV show or a movie and all of a sudden - there they
are! -- revealed, making their presence known along with their desire
to get our attention.
What a perfect opportunity to treat with EFT! What a wonderful, direct
link into a system that is just so hard to get into when you are trying
from your conscious mind by thinking about it or trying to find words!
I got very excited when the young man mentioned his reaction to the DS9
episode. He remembered its name clearly and I suggested he consider
going to BlockBuster and obtaining a copy - luckily, they stock them
all and the ones they don't have on the shelves, they can order for you.
The young man, however, was not very excited at the thought of crying
for another three days and bringing on another months-long cycle of the
blackest depression.
So we had to back up and start with set ups to first get him balanced
on the idea of going to the video store in the first place. This took
three rounds of straight EFT to accomplish until he was really looking
forward to freeing himself of these emotions.
I made
him promise that
he would not "force himself" at any stage of the whole process, i.e.
going to the shop, looking for the tape, finding it, picking it up,
bringing it home and then to consider playing it.
He
made his promise
and we concluded the conversation. I waited for the feedback.
In the
meantime, and only a day later, another lady mentioned in
passing a very strong negative response she recently had to the movie
"Eyes Wide Shut" - a sick feeling that was building up as the story
unfolded and became so uncomfortable and physically painful that she
had to turn the video off.
She
returned it as soon as she could,
"because I didn't even want to have it in the house".
This
lady is very
keen on personal development and a very experienced tapper and
therapist so, after discussion with me, she went to work immediately
and the very next morning rented the tape again.
She had to tap before she could put it into the machine, using set ups
such as...
"Even though I am afraid what I am going to find out about myself"
"Even though this makes me uncomfortable"
"Even though I don't want to feel this pain again".
Then she reports this: "I was sitting ready with my hand on the sore
spot and as soon as anything came up, I tapped. Some scenes I re-wound
and tapped on a number of times and it was interesting how it seemed as
though the emotions wanted to be released - each time, it only took
half a round or so to bring it to 0. There was no resistance at all, it
was as though my unconscious mind was co-operating completely and we
were doing this together."
This, of course, is the wonder of EFT. The fact that no matter how
intense or downright nasty the emotions are which got tied into certain
subject areas, they can be released quite readily, especially when you
are in contact with them.
The video of "Eyes Wide Shut" hit the mark on this lady's present
issues with total accuracy and on many levels all at once, which is the
perfect place from which to release the emotions.
The
fact that she had
total control over events by (1) being able to stop the film at any
time if it was becoming too uncomfortable, (2) freeze framing certain
key scenes and (3) rewinding it and playing it again if necessary to
check for aspects, appealed to her tremendously and of course, from my
standpoint, it is perfection in therapeutic application.
Lastly, being able to watch it all the way through and get a complete
new outlook on the events as they unfold is a brilliant real life test
to make sure you have found all the aspects and you really have changed
your mind.
The young man also acquired his film and went through much the same
stages as the lady did.
It
seems quite natural to do it in this way as
you are guided by your feelings and working with them, not against
them.
He
reported a profound sense of relief in spite of much crying
and watching his film in sections over a number of days instead of
doing it all at once. He said that it was probably the most profound
personal development experience he has ever had.
As a parting note, I would suggest that this is an excellent way of
dealing with unconscious material by yourself with control and safety.
It is
excellent for therapists too, because asking about the themes of
movies and shows that have produced such a reaction in the past can be
a most valuable entry point into unconscious subject areas.
In
therapy,
i.e. with another person, you would ask the client to describe the
scene that triggered the emotional responses and become the video
recorder as you stop, treat, rewind, and play again to test the changes.
Silvia Hartmann-Kent
[The image is from
the book Reel
Therapy: How Movies Inspire You to Overcome Life's Problems, by Gary Solomon,
PhD.]
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For
more info, see
the Emotional
Freedom Techniques site.
Emotional
Freedom Techniques (EFT)
Based
on impressive new discoveries involving the body's subtle energies,
Emotional Freedom Techniques
(EFT) has been clinically effective in thousands of cases for Trauma
& Abuse, Stress & Anxiety, Fears & Phobias, Depression,
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Properly
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Also see more EFT articles.
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subscription service Netflix:
 
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