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Manage Your Fears: Seven Steps to Freedom by
Cynthia Morris What
makes it impossible is not one's inability to choose one over the
other, but that fear is inevitable. In
most situations where we are reaching for something new, fear is
present. I learned from a wise teacher that we do not get rid of fear
before we do something, but that we go into the situation with the
fear. I had
confessed to her that I wanted to act, to be on-stage, but that I was
afraid. She said, take the fear with you. The
next thing I knew, I had auditioned for a play and not only gotten a
part, but the lead! I had never felt such happiness, and fear, which
went with me to every rehearsal and performance. I
survived, and learned a lot in the process about what I was capable of
when I did not let my fear stop me from even trying. Here
are seven steps that I use to help clients to manage their fears: 2) Identify the fear(s). Get clear about what it is you are really afraid of. Keep digging until you recognize the foundation fear. 3) Recall a time when you had fear and went forward anyway. What worked for you to move despite the fear? 4) Choose meaningful action. Fear loathes a moving target. Keep in action toward your goals. 5) Get support. Who do you have in your life that can help you recognize your strengths and move beyond your weaknesses? 6) Know that you are not your fears or limiting beliefs about yourself. Stay clear that fear is a state of mind, not your identity. 7)
Have fun with it. Even the most serious of endeavors is helped by
lightheartedness. Once I
use one or more of these steps, I am able to move forward. The relief
and reward after I have done something that is scary far outweighs the
fear. Her
book: Create Your Writer's Life is available on her site: > related Talent Development Resources pages: anxiety
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