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Profit from
Experience: The Key to Your Right Livelihood
May Be Right in Your Own Backyard
By
Valerie Young / ChangingCourse
We all know the story of Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz. Swept away to the
enchanting but forbidding Land of Oz by a tornado, Dorothy endures all
manner of challenges in an attempt to achieve her one and only dream of
returning home to her family in Kansas.
It is
not until the end of her frightfully wondrous journey that Dorothy has
an epiphany. '…if I ever go looking for my heart's desire again,' she
tells Glenda, the Good Witch of the North, 'I won't look any further
than my own backyard.' More often than not it’s the same way with
career options.
Too many people either fail to see – or outright dismiss – how the
personal experiences in their own 'backyard' are ripe with
possibilities for income streams or indeed complete careers. Every
small business I ever had originated from some event, realization, or
challenge I’d personally experienced.
For example in the early 80s, I took a course at the University of
Massachusetts called Dynamics of White Racism with a dynamic and
utterly passionate doctoral student named Judith Katz.
To say
that the course had a profound effect on my world view would be a gross
understatement. So much so that I didn’t just want to study with Judy
Katz – I wanted to BE Judy Katz. (If you’re interested in the field of
diversity training you can read an interview with Judith at
DiversityUIntl.com/awards.html).
That
single course also set me on my future career direction.
A senior at the time, I went on to enroll in the same graduate school
Judy was just getting ready to graduate from. A few years later, I was
the founding coordinator of what is now the Social Justice program
there.
I paid
my way through school as a self-employed facilitator conducting
training programs on racial awareness and diversity for resident
assistants (dorm counselors) at colleges and universities around the
country.
When it comes to actually applying your experience to your work, who
you are - your personality, your temperament, your skills - are as
important as the thing you love to do. In this case, the key to my
success as a speaker standing up in front of audiences as large as 400
to 1200 people about potentially loaded 'isms' was my sense of humor.
I used
it to effectively diffuse tension, minimize unproductive guilt, and get
everyone - regardless of race, gender, religion, physical ability or
sexual orientation - to take the issues seriously and yet also learn by
laughing at themselves.
I loved being a graduate student. The hours were pretty flexible and
although I had assignments to complete, in a lot of ways I was my own
boss. Things were going pretty well… that is until it came time to
actually hunker down and write a 200-plus page dissertation.
That’s
when the self-doubt, procrastination, and intense feelings of
intellectual fraudulence set in.
It’s
also when I stumbled upon study in a psychological journal on the
so-called the Impostor Phenomenon by Dr. Pauline Clance and Dr. Suzanne
Imes.
No one could have felt like more of a fraud then I did. I mean who was
I kidding? I was this 24-year old, working class, first generation
college kid – and the only one to go on to graduate school – in a
doctoral program with all these mature, much smarter, and far more
worldly professionals.
I
mean, who did I think I was?
I’m
still not sure how I managed to slip through the admissions process
undetected. But there I was. So rather than waste three years of course
work, I realized I’d better finish what I’d started and get out before
I’m discovered.
That’s when it hit me. If I have to write the darned dissertation
anyway, why not focus my own research on understanding perfectionism,
fear of failure, ambivalence about success, chronic self-doubt and
other self-limiting patterns and philosophies that seem to plague so
many women and quite a few men?
Studying the thing that was the most troublesome to me at the time was
what helped me work through it. The writing part proved to be every
much the ordeal I knew it would be, but at least I knew I’d have a
publishable document at the end.
Researching
achievement blocks and interviewing other women from different fields
and stages of their careers help me to lower my own internal yardstick
to a far more attainable human level.
As
exciting, I like to think that the over 30,000 people – men and women
alike – that have attended my workshop on How to Feel as Bright and
Capable as Everyone Seems to Think You Are have benefited from my
experience.
From here, my career took a detour that led me at age 30 to take my
first real job-job. What a change from the comparatively care-free life
of a perpetual student. Talk about your rude awakening.
You
see, my consultant friends at the time were pulling down the big bucks
consulting to corporations. Most of my clients, in contrast, were
colleges or professional women’s organizations.
So I decided to take a job in the corporate management development and
training department at a Fortune 500 company so I could 1) demystify
the corporate world (that took about a week) and 2) earn my corporate
credentials to take with me when I returned to consulting.
My
plan was to stay in the cube world for a year, two tops. After a year
and a half, I switched to a management job in strategic marketing and
five years after that, there I was – well-paid but miserable.
When my mom passed away unexpectedly from a heart attack at the too
young age of 61, I realized life was too short to not work at what you
love. For the next year and a half, I spent just about every waking
hour of my personal life plotting my exit strategy.
Little
did I know at the time that I would go on to take everything I was
learning about finding your calling, about the beauty of multiple
income streams, and what it takes to change course and turn it into my
vocation.
There are lots of ways to use your own personal experiences and the
unique insights and lessons learned along the way to guide you onto a
new career path. In the next issue we’ll look at some creative ways
that people have done just that.
You’ll
meet people who have taken their dysfunctional financial habits, bad
food habits, physical disability, stint in corporate America, even
their own troubled youth and turned them into viable income streams.
You’ll
see how they found a way to share their unique approach, technique,
experience, and even humor with others – and get paid to do it. Between
now and then, take some time to reflect on your own life and think
about how you, too, might profit from experience.
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About
the Author
Outside the job box expert, Valerie Young, abandoned her corporate
cubicle to become the Dreamer in Residence at ChangingCourse.com
offering resources to help you discover your life mission and live it.
Her career change tips have been cited in Kiplinger’s, The Wall Street
Journal, USA Today Weekend, Woman’s Day, and elsewhere and on-line at
MSN, CareerBuilder, and iVillage.com.
An
expert on the Impostor Syndrome, Valerie has spoken on the topic of How
to Feel as Bright and Capable as Everyone Seems to Think You Are to
such diverse organizations as Daimler Chrysler, Bristol-Meyers Squibb,
Harvard, and American Women in Radio and Television.
Find
more articles, workshops, books and other programs at
ChangingCourse
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