Remembering the Best, Restoring Yourself, Rapture
by Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein [The Enchanted Self]
[Part One of three]
today's world there are so many wonderful and inspirational books.
There are books filled with stories of Divine intervention, miracles
happening, special positive moments never to be forgotten and stories
of incredible coincidences.
help make us feel in harmony with the
universe. They help us fall asleep and have pleasant dreams.
bring tears to our eyes, reinforcing an inner sense of wisdom that all
is right with the world even when appearances say that is not so.
inspiration is there but it's the
perspiration that most of us need to put into our daily lives to create
for ourselves lives of enchantment.
enchantment for most of
us, i.e., living a life of joy, a life that reflects many states of
well being, again and again, is hard work.
we yearn for
moments when the right thing happens at exactly the right time and the
world opens up for us, whether it's a lucky break, meeting the right
life partner or winning the lottery.
life, in reality, is
filled with hundreds and thousands and probably millions of minutes
that are repetitive, boring or simply ordinary.
up, brushing our teeth, driving to work safely, keeping a job, raising
children, fighting off a cold, etc.
all these times that The
Enchanted Self focuses on. These are the moments that can be mundane,
depressing, dull or can be captivating, enlivening and filled with joy.
is the difference? The difference is usually the perspiration. I
mean the mental and emotional perspiration that is involved in what I
call the three R's of enchantment.
first is Remembering the
Best and Letting Go of the Rest. This is a critical component to
general well being and a sense of happiness on a daily basis.
us have sustained loss and experienced pain. Yes, we've been hurt.
We've been short-changed by opportunities or other people.
we've been stepped upon, left or forgotten. If we spend our daily life
focusing on these disappointments then we cannot release the positive
energies we need to make the most of the present moment and to plan for
negative thinking, disappointments, and not
forgiving all get in the way of what can be done with the present.
need our psyche energies to seize opportunities we can take advantage
of. This can't happen, if our energies are used up ruminating.
even developed talents in coping with hard times that can reemerge in
ways to enhance pleasure and/or help us be of service to the world.
example, the child that was neglected or yelled at has an opportunity
to be particularly kind to others as he or she gets older, maybe to
teach others certain parenting skills having known first hand how it
feels on the other side.
you'll take some time this month to
think about yourself and what talents you may have developed during
stressful times of your life. It may be the very coping skills that you
can use to make your life even more successful and joyful.
with emphasizing how moments, whether they seemed extraordinary or
ordinary at the time, played into future chapters of your life.
play with sharing the hard times in ways that emphasize growth and even
Continued in Part Two
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Barbara Becker Holstein, originator of THE ENCHANTED SELF®, a
method of bringing delight and meaning into everyday living, invites
you to view her new line of ENCHANTED WOMAN products, downloadable
e-books, blog, and free gifts at her site: The Enchanted Self.
Enchanted Self is "a Positive Psychology that encourages positive
states of mind, body and spirit. It is a growth promoting system of
positive understandings and attitudinal changes, insights and simple
life style changes you can make. It is geared to living a life more
joyfully and fully."
See her books from Amazon.com at top right, and on her site:
The Enchanted Self
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