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The Happy-Well: Positive Psychology Tips for Living Well and Longer
by Sherri Fisher
We are
bombarded by science news every day that tells us what to eat, how to
exercise, and what risk factors should worry us.
Should
we eat chocolate? Should we avoid coffee? Drink only green
tea? Strength train four days a week? Stick to yoga?
Avoid
running if we live in a city for fear of inhaling exhaust fumes? Take
cholesterol controlling drugs? Eat only organic foods?
The
answer to all of these questions is, of course, “maybe.”
According to Lyubomirsky, et al, while half of our happiness may be the
result of a genetic setpoint and 10% probably comes from our life
circumstances, 40% is likely the result of our choices.
The
point? Make good choices now that improve your well-being.
It’s
not such a leap to say that well-being improves your health. But
Positive Psychology can make 1 + 1 = 3.
That’s
a win-win-win: more well-being, better health, and…a longer life.
How can 1 + 1 = 3? Most research involving human subjects takes place
over a relatively short time. Weeks or months, not years, is
typical.
The
conclusions that we can reach are helpful, but we don’t always get the
“big” picture.
In George Vaillant, MD’s wonderful book, Aging
Well, he reveals a long-term approach for looking at the good life.
Based
on the Study of Adult Development at Harvard University, which followed
three separate cohorts of over 800 participants selected as teenagers
(only one cohort was Harvard educated) and followed for their entire
lives, the book gives new insight to the big picture of well-being
across the lifespan.
The first thing that you should know is that aging well is NOT
predicted by:
* Your gene pool
* Your cholesterol level
* Your stress level
* Your parents’ social class, marriage success, IQ,
etc.
* Your childhood temperament
* Your degree of positive affect and social ease
Does this mean you should dash out for a quick pint of Chunky Monkey
chased by a Raspberry Mocha Frappuccino? Should you give up
blaming your childhood for your miserable job?
Should
you donate your copy of Emotional
Intelligence to the local book swap?
Maybe.
How about trying the bigger view instead?
While many studies can point to the power of our genes, the lingering
effects of upbringing on our adjustment, and the importance of having a
strong emotional IQ, here are the six things that did predict aging
well.
* Never smoking or stopping young
* Adaptive coping (turning lemons into lemonade)
* No alcohol abuse
* A stable marriage
* 12+ years of education
* Not being overweight/getting some regular exercise
Why do you want these predictive factors? Having these protective
factors predicted health and longevity 30 or more years into the future!
Interestingly, education alone predicted healthy aging, even when
controlling for IQ, social class, income, and the prestige of one’s job
(perceived status). How does education make such a big difference in
predicting aging well, and why should we care?
* Educated people are able to take the long view,
and this facilitates better self-care and life-long learning.
* Educated people recognize the connection between
learning, personal behavior and its consequences.
The Study of Adult Development at Harvard University also identified
four personal qualities (I have them in bold italics below, using the
language of Seligman and Peterson’s Character
Strengths and Virtues) among those the study called the
“Happy-Well.”
1. a future orientation and the ability to anticipate and
plan positively (hope and optimism)
2. the capacity for both gratitude and forgiveness
3. the ability to see the world through the eyes of
another (the capacity to love and be loved)
4. the desire to do things with and for people (kindness,
social intelligence).
So the bottom line for the long view, since none of us is getting any
younger, despite botox:
* Your choices matter.
* Your character matters.
* Your behavior matters.
* Your education matters.
Positive Psychology seeks more people for the ranks of the happy-well
at every age. Here’s to your flourishing!
Article from Positive
Psychology News Daily, July 5, 2007
Sherri Fisher, MAPP, M.Ed., CPBS, combines 20+ years experience in
PK-12 education with positive psychology. She is a principal of three
education-related businesses: Student
Flourishing, Flourishing
Schools, and Right Fit
Career Design. Sherri’s bio.
Sherri writes on the 5th of each month, and her past articles are here.
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