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The
Unstoppable Power of Your Emotions
By Dr Jill Ammon-Wexler
In tapping into your natural
genius, there are many aspects of "genius" to consider. Probably the
least understood expression of the human mind is our emotional
intelligence.
An emotion is the end result of a feeling. And although it's easy
enough to recognize when you're "feeling" something -- it is often less
clear just what a "feeling" really is.
According to Webster's Dictionary, a feeling is "a partly mental,
partly physical, response marked by pleasure, pain, attraction, or
repulsion."
But this says nothing about the response to the feeling!
Suppose two different men buy a used car. They then both have a similar
experience -- the muffler falls off two days later.
Both men obviously "feel" upset.
One expresses that feeling as an intense emotion -- an outbreak of
anger and rage. The other man also expresses his feeling as an intense
emotion -- an iron determination to resolve the problem with the car
dealer.
** What are Emotions?
Emotions are how you *respond* to a feeling of pain, pleasure,
attraction or repulsion.
Basically your emotions are physiologically-based responses to your
feelings. But these physiological responses are NOT the same from one
person to the next. Your emotional responses are actually as unique as
your fingerprints!
Emotional responses vary from one person to the next because they are
actually *learned responses.*
No man comes into life feeling internal rage if someone notices his
unusually large nose. His rage may well date back to age seven when he
first entered school -- and was teased beyond his capacity to endure!
But perhaps he was small for his age. The "feeling" of rage was there,
but his safest emotional expression was to seem indifferent. As an
adult, this may evolve into a "biting sarcasm" toward anyone seen as a
potential emotional threat!
So you can see -- it's in the learned *responses* to our feelings that
people differ.
** How Emotions Impact Your Success
Most of today's psychologists and success mentors are convinced that
one's "emotional intelligence," or EQ, is a far better predictor of
life success than one's "rational intelligence," or IQ.
We've all known really bright folks who aren't living up to their
potential. This is not to make them wrong! It's just that success is
not their "passion."
But how many "passionate" people do you know who aren't living up to
their potential -- or at least stretching out toward it?
"So what do I really mean by passion?" you ask.
In terms of life success -- passion is an *intense* emotion directed at
achieving something that is either desired, or unwanted. For example: A
passionate desire to escape poverty -- or a passionate desire to
achieve financial independence.
Note that the goal to "escape" poverty, and the goal to attain
"financial independence," both seem to be directed at the same end
result.
But are they truly the same?
** How the "Law of Attraction" Works
Both neuroscientists and behavioral scientists have clearly
demonstrated that when you have a strong emotion about something -- you
physically strengthen the neural pathways dedicated to that "thing."
This is likely the neurological basis of what metaphysical writers have
for ages referred to as "the Law of Attraction."
The modern scientific version of this ancient law may be stated: You
"attract" what you intensely focus your emotion on -- as in doing so,
you build strong neural networks directly related to that something.
Here's a sample scenario. Suppose you're buying a Ford Pinto
automobile. You select what you feel is the most exciting and unique
color for the Pinto -- deep red. But when you hit the road with your
new red Pinto, you suddenly see one after another of the exact same
model -- also red.
You'd never before noticed that red is actually the most common color
for the Ford Pinto!
What happened is that your new red Pinto has created a dynamic neural
awareness. Your neurons have been sensitized to notice similar cars
because of your excitement (intense emotion) about *your* new car!
Did you "attract" these red cars?
Most likely not! But you certainly are now very aware of their
presence.
** The Power of Positive Emotions
Back to our comparison of the goal to "escape" poverty -- vs the goal
to attain "financial independence."
Although both goals look toward the same end result -- they deal with
quite different emotions. The desire to escape poverty is fueled by
fear, while the desire to attain financial freedom is fueled by
positive attraction.
While both could possibly take you to the same end goal -- the "Law of
Attraction" predicts quite a different experience along the path
leading toward the goal.
If you build neural pathways based on doubt and fear, you will
sensitize yourself to events or conditions that might relate to your
fears and self-doubt.
What if you instead build neural pathways based on strong feelings of
self-confidence and anticipation?
You will then find yourself recognizing opportunities leading to your
goal -- just as you suddenly noticed all those red Pintos.
What you focus intense emotion upon tends to "attract your attention"
to more of the same. This law is neither negative nor positive. It just
is!
By far the best way to approach your life goals is with positive,
passionate desire. Discover your passion -- what you *really* want
&Mac246; and pour your emotions into your pursuit!
Focus your emotions on a problem and give into your fears, and what you
fear gains actual neural strength. Focus your emotions on achieving a
positive goal in your life, and it will gain strength. Period!
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article provided courtesy of
author - Dr Jill Ammon-Wexler, Pioneer brain/mind researcher - see more
articles and resources
- unusual, stimulating and creative methods of self discovery, weekly
ezine, and the web's first Brain Gym ezone on her site:
Quantum-Self
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