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Why
You Don't Write Your Book
by
Suzanne Falter-Barns
In
the ten years that I've taught people how to get on with their books
and creative projects, I've noticed a phenomenon that I'll call
"Author's Block."
Would-be
writers can, indeed, sit down and work when
pressed to it. The problem is that they're not so sure they want the
pressure of being an author. But they do want it. But they don't. And
so on.
Ah, the agony of getting on with your book.
Well, I'm here to diffuse that situation with a list of the key reasons
we have trouble sticking to our writing or other creative projects.
Perhaps this will help the next time you find yourself polishing
doorknobs instead of sitting down to work.
Check all that apply to you:
* You lie to yourself about why you can't write the book.
You think your stalling is about lack of time or too much pressure at
work or not enough solitude in the evening. But guess what? Chances are
a deeper, darker reason may be at play, like "I'm not supposed to be
bigger than Mom" or "What if this thing really takes off?"
* You fear the impact your book could have.
Sometimes when I coach writers in my Self-Help Author's Crash Course,
I'll ask them what's impeding their progress. And after some probing,
it will come out that they're afraid of the big exposure a book can
have if it takes off.
I'm here to assure you that
should that happen, (and chances are your book will not unleash wild
mobs of millions), you will be able to handle it. How do I know? On
that deep level where psyche meets karma, you won't create a single
reader more than you're ready to receive.
* You think your book doesn't matter, so why bother?
One writer I know put this succinctly: "I've tried getting up at 5 AM
to write or staying up late or even leaving my home, but none of it
works. I have this tired feeling that none of my effort is going to
amount to a hill of beans."
In fact, writing and
publication can be an entirely self-determined activity these days. If
the publishing pundits don't go for your book, there's always the
option of self-publishing paperback editions or e-books and selling
them on online booksellers or your website.
In other words, your book DOES matter, and you really have no excuse.
(Acid test: if the book keeps on patiently urging you to sit down and
write it for months and even years, chances are you'd better do it.)
* You think you don't know how to write a book.
Guess what? Neither does any other first-time writer. And that may be a
wonderful thing. As a beginner, you don't approach your book project
with a carload of professional expectations and demands from your
process. You can just be open, like... well, a nice blank book. All you
really need is your intuition to guide you and the will to write your
book as honestly as you can.
* You have no support. You need someone in your corner,
cheering you on, to get through the long and somewhat tiring process of
birthing a book.
Because writers need a way to show up and be accountable for their
progress. They need someone to keep saying, "Yes, you really can do
this" or even "How's it going?" Minds can be tricky and difficult when
fully challenged by something like a book. And steady external support
is the best way around that.
* You're afraid you'll run out of material.
There isn't a writer out there who hasn't had this fear. And I'm here
to say that if you just stay loose and open, and willing to receive the
ideas, they will show up.
All you
have to do is commit -- really sit
down, and begin to bring that book into being -- and the work will
magically appear. Sometimes it won't flow that easily, and sometimes it
will scare you with its speed and power. But it will, indeed, show up.
* You think "Who am I to write a book?"
And yet, you are the perfect person to write your book, because you're
the one chosen to receive this material. (You don't have to be
spiritually inclined to believe this.)
I personally
believe that books are given to us when we're ready to receive them…
and when we do, our lives are changed by that process.
* You fear uncomfortable moments.
Ah, but that's the most exciting thing about writing your book. You
will be given challenges and lessons that just seem untenable along the
way.
And if you're committed enough, you'll rise
above them and so become stronger in the process. This is especially
true for self-help books: we naturally write what we need to learn.
Got a few categories checked off from the list above? Good! Awareness
is the first step to diffusing your fears. Meanwhile, PLEASE do get on
with your book... despite your misgivings. Not only do you deserve this
work -- so do we.
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published in
the newsletter of SuccessNet
- a worldwide association committed to helping people become more
knowledgeable, productive and effective.
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Suzanne
Falter-Barns
is author of the books:
How
Much Joy Can You Stand : A
Creative
Guide
to
Facing Your Fears and Making Your Dreams Come True
Living
Your Joy: A Practical Guide to Happiness
and
founder
of coaching resources site:
HowMuchJoy.com
- Learn Your Purpose. Live Your Joy
Also
see her programs:
Get Known Now
- Helping Your Practice, Book
or Small Business Reach Millions
Fill Your Groups
Now
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