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Be More Creative: What Is Your Self Concept?

Be More Creative: What Is Your Self Concept?

One reason for discounting our creative abilities is comparing ourselves to other people, especially well-known and successful artists [such as Dean Koontz and Lady Gaga]. And myths about artists being “crazy” or “starving” may also influence how much we may be motivated to live a creative life. View “Be More Creative: What Is Your Self […]

Telling ourselves stories - true and not so true

Telling ourselves stories – true and not so true

“When I was younger, I could remember anything, whether it had happened or not; but my faculties are decaying now and soon I shall be so I cannot remember any but the things that never happened.” – Mark Twain One of the most basic ways we deal with life and find meaning is to create […]

Brief quote: Alfre Woodard

Brief quote: Alfre Woodard

“I didn’t discover I was an artist until I was 17… “It was very hard to be an artist and a child… it was like having sand up your butt when you go to the beach.” Alfre Woodard More quotes on page: Identity See more articles on Self Concept ~~~~ Related articles Toxic Criticism and […]

Creative expression and identity

Creative expression and identity

Creative expression is based on both our inner selves and our abilities, so maybe it is not surprising if we question both our self concept and talents. But our insecurities and doubts may not be just a matter of objective competence. For example, two actors noted for being able to create distinctive and powerful characters […]

Identity and Being Creative

Identity and Being Creative

How does identity impact our lives as creative people, and our creative work? Psychologist Scott Barry Kaufman comments: “Creative expression equals self-expression… So anything we can do to firm up our identity, figure out who we are, separate from others, and what it is we really want to express – that influences our information processing […]

Dealing With Our Critical Inner Voice

Dealing With Our Critical Inner Voice

Our self-critical thinking can hinder personal growth and creative work. One form it can take is fraud and impostor feelings. Actor Emma Watson has commented about its impact for her: “It’s almost like the better I do, the more my feeling of inadequacy actually increases, because I’m just going, Any moment, someone’s going to find […]

Valerie Young on the Expert Trap

Valerie Young on the Expert Trap

In her article How Much Do You Need to Know Before You’re an Expert?, career mentor Valerie Young of Changing Course describes a number of self-limiting beliefs about qualification and competence. Here are some quotes: ‘You’re especially prone to the Expert Trap if you mistakenly believe that competence and expertise are one and the same. […]

Jamie Lee Curtis on the power of self-acceptance to build identity

Jamie Lee Curtis on the power of self-acceptance to build identity

Jamie Lee Curtis on self esteem, building self confidence, self-acceptance, authentic happiness elf acceptance and realistic esteem are crucial to how well we relate to others and express our talents. Being comfortable in our own skins is part of being happy, authentic and free to be creative. The current Success magazine includes a profile of […]

It's okay to look inside

It’s okay to look inside

Creative inspiration and energy can come from many sources, but the most important source is us – our own abilities, thoughts and feelings, including the inner stuff we may not want to look at because we think it is “immoral” or “sick” or otherwise “bad.” Artists, of course, realize that it is not only okay […]

Can self-doubt be a good thing?

Can self-doubt be a good thing?

Some people in positions of power or with celebrity status, such as high profile actors and entertainers, can develop an overblown sense of their importance and abilities. Brad Pitt once admitted, “We are treated as special. We get away with things that other people can’t. And you start to believe the lie that you are […]

Unrecognized Giftedness and Identity

Unrecognized Giftedness and Identity

Embracing our identity as gifted and talented is not easy for many of us to do. Why is this so tough? What beliefs about giftedness get in our way? What leads to unrecognized giftedness for so many people? In his article “How to Charm Gifted Adults into Admitting Giftedness: Their Own and Somebody Else’s,” excerpted below, […]

Self-esteem and self-limiting

Self-esteem and self-limiting

For a few decades, it’s been noted that a large percentage of all gifted students severely underestimate their own abilities. They adopt lower standards for success and expect less of themselves. They underrate the importance of effort, and they overrate how much help they need from a parent. When parents praise their children’s intelligence, they […]

Where are the teen role models?

Where are the teen role models?

In the movie “Nancy Drew,” the heroine (played with style and grace by Emma Roberts) engages and celebrates her intuitive and intellectual abilities as a teen sleuth, and comes to accept the fact she is exceptional, and does not fit in with her high school peers concerned with cliques, clothes and crushes. Yes, it is […]

Jack Canfield on how thinking can sabotage us

Jack Canfield on how thinking can sabotage us

“Sometimes you’ve got to let everything go… purge yourself. If you are unhappy with anything… whatever is bringing you down, get rid of it. Because you’ll find that when you’re free, your true creativity, your true self comes out.” That quote by Tina Turner is from the article Who You Are, by Jack Canfield, who […]

Queen Latifah on being authentic

Queen Latifah on being authentic

“I really don’t know how to be anyone else, and whenever I try to be anyone else, I fail miserably. Or I disappoint myself. It doesn’t build my self-esteem, and it doesn’t help me grow me at all.” ~ ~ “It was a very vulnerable time going from being insecure about my body and who […]

Restlessness and Jagged Edges

Restlessness and Jagged Edges

“I believe that curiosity, wonder and passion are defining qualities of imaginative minds and great teachers; that restlessness and discontent are vital things; and that intense experience and suffering instruct us in ways that less intense emotions can never do. “I believe, in short, that we are equally beholden to heart and mind, and that […]

Conformity and Creativity

Conformity and Creativity

“The worship of convention will never lead to astonishment.” Tama J. Kieves Author and personal development coach Tama Kieves faced a number of challenges after graduating with honors from Harvard Law School, but felt compelled to leave her career as “an overworked attorney” to follow her “soul’s haunting desire to become a writer.” In her […]

Playing stupid isn't cute

Playing stupid isn’t cute

Jessica Simpson infamously asked in a video clip whether the Chicken of the Sea tuna she was eating was really chicken or fish. She also reportedly indicated she thinks buffalo wings are made from actual buffalo. “Growing up I was always the blonde that everybody made fun of, and I just played into that, because […]

Lady Gaga: Honor Your Unique Identity

Lady Gaga: Honor Your Unique Identity

One of the themes Lady Gaga keeps advancing in her work, and in interviews such as this one with Ellen DeGeneres, is to respect your unique self. “Through honoring your identity and really fighting for who you are every single day of your life, down to your core, you can have more faith and more […]

Impostor phenomenon: Gerard Butler - "Have I ever thought I was a fraud? Maybe 18 hours a day."

Impostor phenomenon: Gerard Butler – “Have I ever thought I was a fraud? Maybe 18 hours a day.”

These quotes by Gerard Butler are from Erik Hedegaard’s profile, Gerry the Sinner / Gerry the Saint, Men’s Journal, April 2010. That I got through all that I got through to be where I am, it doesn’t make sense — this kind of lost soul studying law in Scotland and then moving to London with […]

Being out and celebrating our authentic selves

Being out and celebrating our authentic selves

“For a long, long time, I really tried to be something I’m not, somebody who’s not gay. And I have to say it ruined my life in a lot of ways.” Kelly McGillis There are many ways, subtle and not so subtle, that we hide who we really are. Covering up of our authentic selves […]

Resources on Creative People, Personality and Mental Health

Resources on Creative People, Personality and Mental Health

This long page includes a video of my online 1 hour presentation, plus multiple short video excerpts, plus notes and multiple links to articles and other resources. Main topics: Personality: High Sensitivity | Self Concept / Self Esteem Mental Health: Anxiety | Depression | Trauma Sections include: A Complex Personality Insecurity and Androgyny High Sensitivity […]

Eating disorders, body image and perfectionism

Eating disorders, body image and perfectionism

Are actors and other performers at greater risk for body image issues and eating disorders than people who are not “in the spotlight”? Maybe. What has interested me in this topic over the years is how many highly talented women – especially actors – have talked about having body issues and eating disorders now or […]

Brian Tracy on Cultivating Self-Esteem

Brian Tracy on Cultivating Self-Esteem

Personal growth and achievement leader Brian Tracy writes about the importance of positive self-regard : “Your self-esteem is probably the most important part of your personality. It precedes and predicts your performance in almost everything you do. “It is the energy source or the reactor core of your personality, and how much self-esteem you have […]

Masi Oka on intelligence and expectations and stereotyping

Masi Oka on intelligence and expectations and stereotyping

Masi Oka has an improv background and computer science degree, and worked for George Lucas’ visual effects studio, ILM, before acting. His first leading role is ‘Hiro Nakamura’ in the TV series Heroes [dvd]. [The image is from Wired magazine - The 2007 Rave Awards.] On the Tavis Smiley Show April 27, 2007, he addressed […]

Novelist Clare Allen on "Poppy Shakespeare," mental illness and creativity

Novelist Clare Allen on “Poppy Shakespeare,” mental illness and creativity

By Cat Robson. The film Poppy Shakespeare, based on Clare Allen’s novel, takes us down a cinematic rabbit hole into north London’s fictional Dorothy Fish day hospital where the clearly ‘sane’ Poppy, played by Naomie Harris, has been mysteriously committed to a compulsory day-program for the mentally ill. In a psychiatric Catch 22, she must […]

Can being unrealistic about ourselves be good?

Can being unrealistic about ourselves be good?

Brain/mind researcher Jill Ammon-Wexler comments about self-concept: “It’s commonly assumed that normal, well-adjusted people have realistic views of their own potential. “And it is also commonly assumed that those who do not have realistic self-concepts are very possibly neurotic or unbalanced. “Are these assumptions true? I’ll have to say absolutely not. “As a psychologist, the […]

Self-esteem and expressing our talents

Self-esteem and expressing our talents

Our concepts about identity and self-worth, and how we regard and value ourselves, may have more impact than anything else on being able to fully explore and realize our unique abilities. Wally “Famous” Amos says his personal mission statement “is simply to help people feel better about themselves. I think that self-esteem is at the […]

Shamed and Unashamed - Overcoming Low Self Esteem

Shamed and Unashamed – Overcoming Low Self Esteem

Bad to the bone Psychiatrist Michael Lewis, author of the book Shame: The Exposed Self, considers shame to be so powerful because it’s about the perception of having a “defective self.. rotten and no good.” But, he notes, “We don’t want to live in a world in which there is no shame or guilt. We […]

Lady Gaga on identity and creative expression

Lady Gaga on identity and creative expression

Lady Gaga identifies herself as a feminist, and says, “I find that men get away with saying a lot in this business, and that women get away with saying very little. “In my opinion, women need and want someone to look up to that they feel have the full sense of who they are, and […]

Growing a false self

Growing a false self

In his article How We Become Who We Are Not [from his book The Mandala of Being], Richard Moss, MD outlines the dynamics we may experience in learning to be someone who is not our authentic self. “How do children come to believe that they are indispensable to their parents’ well-being,” he writes, “and that […]

Self esteem and actors - low self confidence

Self esteem and actors – low self confidence

Many creative people report feeling incompetent, inadequate and having low self esteem at times. But there are ways to shift those feelings. A number of film actors report they don’t watch their own movies. When you can be seen in close-ups on twenty foot high theater screens, it may be especially hard not to criticize […]