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Kathryn Bigelow: Not a female filmmaker, but a filmmaker, period.

Kathryn Bigelow: Not a female filmmaker, but a filmmaker, period.

Kathryn Bigelow just became winner of the first Academy Award ever presented to a female director, for her outstanding Best Picture winner, The Hurt Locker. In an interview about her work as writer-director of Blue Steel (1989), Bigelow noted, “If there’s specific resistance to women making movies, I just choose to ignore that as an […]

Can self-doubt be a good thing?

Can self-doubt be a good thing?

Some people in positions of power or with celebrity status, such as high profile actors and entertainers, can develop an overblown sense of their importance and abilities. Brad Pitt once admitted, “We are treated as special. We get away with things that other people can’t. And you start to believe the lie that you are […]

Where are the teen role models?

Where are the teen role models?

In the movie “Nancy Drew,” the heroine (played with style and grace by Emma Roberts) engages and celebrates her intuitive and intellectual abilities as a teen sleuth, and comes to accept the fact she is exceptional, and does not fit in with her high school peers concerned with cliques, clothes and crushes. Yes, it is […]

Restlessness and Jagged Edges

Restlessness and Jagged Edges

“I believe that curiosity, wonder and passion are defining qualities of imaginative minds and great teachers; that restlessness and discontent are vital things; and that intense experience and suffering instruct us in ways that less intense emotions can never do. “I believe, in short, that we are equally beholden to heart and mind, and that […]

Making good use of your quarter-life crisis

Making good use of your quarter-life crisis

“At twenty-five, I was a television literary agent.. I had an office with a view, an assistant, an expense account, power lunches, clients, and business cards… From the outside, my life looked great… There was just one problem: I was absolutely miserable.” Christine Hassler The big questions of vocation, identity, relationships, how we use our […]

Nurturing Our Self-Esteem - Part 2

Nurturing Our Self-Esteem – Part 2

 {Continued from Nurturing Our Self-Esteem – Part 1} Here is a video overview. (At the end it says “See related article” – that is the article below.) ~ ~ Why be concerned about self-esteem? At the beginning of Part 1, psychologist Nathaniel Branden was quoted about it being “the single most important factor for a […]

Dealing with self-criticism

Dealing with self-criticism

Criticism saps our passion for life “Certain basic doubts keep Colin from enjoying a truly comfortable sense of superiority.” In a series of podcasts adapted from his book Toxic Criticism, Eric Maisel, PhD talks about how “criticism and self-criticism interfere with our ability to find our life purpose and live as strongly, passionately, and effectively […]

It's okay to look inside

It’s okay to look inside

Creative inspiration and energy can come from many sources, but the most important source is us – our own abilities, thoughts and feelings, including the inner stuff we may not want to look at because we think it is “immoral” or “sick” or otherwise “bad.” Artists, of course, realize that it is not only okay […]

Don't you have to be an artist to be creative?

Don’t you have to be an artist to be creative?

Years ago, I interviewed a producer who was certain she was not creative, even though she was helping solve many problems associated with making movies. Maybe one reason people think they are not creative is that we are given so many examples in school and the media of eminent, big name artists and creators who […]

Building Self-confidence and Changing Limiting Beliefs

Building Self-confidence and Changing Limiting Beliefs

Playing most of his screen characters, Will Smith exudes assurance and confidence. But he admits: “I still doubt myself every single day. What people believe is my self-confidence is actually my reaction to fear.” [From my article Talented, But Insecure.] In his article I work to build self-confidence in myself and others, entrepreneur Stephen Pierce […]

Perfectionism and Depression: What to Do When Being a Perfectionist Drags You Down

Perfectionism and Depression: What to Do When Being a Perfectionist Drags You Down

Here is an excerpt from an article by Sedona Training Associates staff and Hale Dwoskin: Do you ever think the following self-limiting beliefs? * It’s not OK to make a mistake * People will not like me if I’m not perfect * I’ll avoid anything I can’t do well * I’m a failure because I […]

Self-esteem and self-limiting

Self-esteem and self-limiting

  Giving inauthentic praise to children can have a corrosive effect on healthy self-esteem, which can continue to impact our personal and career success as adults. Writer Po Bronson articulates some of the issues: “For a few decades, it’s been noted that a large percentage of all gifted students severely underestimate their own abilities. They […]

Resources on Creative People, Personality and Mental Health

Resources on Creative People, Personality and Mental Health

This long page includes a video of my online 1 hour presentation, plus multiple short video excerpts, plus notes and multiple links to articles and other resources. Main topics: Personality: High Sensitivity | Self Concept / Self Esteem Mental Health: Anxiety | Depression | Trauma Sections include: A Complex Personality Insecurity and Androgyny High Sensitivity […]

Getting Beyond Too Deferential

Getting Beyond Too Deferential

Do you hold yourself back in order to get along, make others feel good, or for other reasons? Does your voice in the world represent who you are, and how you feel about who you are? Mary-Elaine Jacobsen, Psy.D. – author of The Gifted Adult – notes, “There are millions of unidentified individuals of high […]

Carol Dweck on the growth mindset

Carol Dweck on the growth mindset

“In this mindset, the hand you’re dealt is just the starting point for development. This growth mindset is based on the belief that your basic qualities are things you can cultivate through your efforts.” In her book Mindset: The New Psychology of Success, psychologist Carol Dweck considers two basic attitudes and paradigms about human ability […]

Nerds. Is it OK to have a beautiful mind?

Nerds. Is it OK to have a beautiful mind?

A review by The Week magazine of the book “Nerds” notes the term was used by Dr. Seuss in one of his books in 1950. “Its actual definition has had shifting boundaries, says book author child psychologist David Anderegg. “Today it connotes ’some combination of school success, interest in precision, un-self-consciousness, closeness to adults, and […]

Self-Esteem Declines Sharply Among Older Adults

Self-Esteem Declines Sharply Among Older Adults

Medical News Today Self-esteem rises steadily as people age but starts declining around the time of retirement, according to a longitudinal study of men and women ranging in age from 25 to 104. “Self-esteem is related to better health, less criminal behavior, lower levels of depression and, overall, greater success in life,” said the study’s […]

Not like the others?

Not like the others?

One of these things is not like the others, One of these things just doesn’t belong, Can you tell which thing is not like the others By the time I finish my song? From Sesame Street song One Of These Things (is Not Like The Others) “Not only did my identity seem tangible, it also […]

Unrecognized Giftedness and Identity

Unrecognized Giftedness and Identity

By Cat Robson Embracing our identity as gifted and talented is not easy for many of us to do. Why is this so tough? What beliefs about giftedness get in our way? What leads to unrecognized giftedness for so many people? In his article “How to Charm Gifted Adults into Admitting Giftedness: Their Own and Somebody […]

Self-esteem: what's so good about it?

Self-esteem: what’s so good about it?

Gene Simmons, asked about joining the new Donald Trump program “The Apprentice: Celebrity Edition” (starting this evening), gave one of his typical tongue in cheek responses: “I’m the next apprentice because I’m the best of the best” – adding with a big grin: “Look how sincere I am.” He also commented, “You can’t get really […]

Gods and prodigies, freaks and geeks: building identity

Gods and prodigies, freaks and geeks: building identity

Wunderkind, genius, prodigy. Freak, geek, nerd. How we label exceptional people and ourselves affects our identity and what we think about the reality and value of our talents, and the possibilities of expressing them in the world. One of the most positive experiences for me in high school was my friendship with an artist (painter, […]

Srikumar Rao on our mental chatter

Srikumar Rao on our mental chatter

Srikumar Rao, PhD conceived the course “Creativity and Personal Mastery” – the only business school course that has its own alumni association and it has been extensively covered in the media. He writes: “You have a companion. One that never, ever leaves you. It sticks with you, staying even closer than your shadow. It is […]

Brief quote: Alfre Woodard

Brief quote: Alfre Woodard

“I didn’t discover I was an artist until I was 17… “It was very hard to be an artist and a child… it was like having sand up your butt when you go to the beach.” Alfre Woodard More quotes on page: Identity See more articles on Self Concept ~~~~ Related articles Toxic Criticism and […]

Robert Anthony on The Disease of Self-Improvement - When Self Growth Runs Amok

Robert Anthony on The Disease of Self-Improvement – When Self Growth Runs Amok

Personal growth, personal development, self-improvement – these are topics that many of us explore. Maybe most of us. But can we be overdoing it sometimes? [From my earlier post Can we do self-improvement too much?] Robert Anthony, author of Rich Mind Life Strategy program, has some provocative ideas on the subject, and writes: “So how […]

Feeling like an impostor, a fraud

Feeling like an impostor, a fraud

“Sometimes I wake up in the morning before going off to a shoot, and I think, I can’t do this; I’m a fraud. They’re going to fire me — all these things. I’m fat; I’m ugly…” Those admissions by Kate Winslet were made after her Academy Award nominations for Titanic (1997) and Sense and Sensibility […]

Jack Canfield on how thinking can sabotage us

Jack Canfield on how thinking can sabotage us

“Sometimes you’ve got to let everything go… purge yourself. If you are unhappy with anything… whatever is bringing you down, get rid of it. Because you’ll find that when you’re free, your true creativity, your true self comes out.” That quote by Tina Turner is from the article Who You Are, by Jack Canfield, who […]

Lady Gaga: Honor Your Unique Identity

Lady Gaga: Honor Your Unique Identity

One of the themes Lady Gaga keeps advancing in her work, and in interviews, is to respect your unique self. “Through honoring your identity and really fighting for who you are every single day of your life, down to your core, you can have more faith and more hope in life and in the future.” […]

Why bother being authentic?

Why bother being authentic?

Two of the key elements in personal growth writings and programs are self-knowledge and self-acceptance. Personal development seems to depend on knowing who we really are. But what does that mean, and what “practical” value is there? People visited the Oracle of Delphi in ancient Greece seeking answers about the future, from matters of public […]

Ego and Spirituality and Personal Growth

Ego and Spirituality and Personal Growth

Does our ego serve us, or can it hinder our personal development? Eckhart Tolle says “one of the jobs of the ego is to blame others. Another job of the ego is to make yourself feel guilty. Both of these things strengthen your sense of identity, they are negative senses of identity. And the ego […]

If it's hard to do that proves I'm stupid. Beliefs and personal development

If it’s hard to do that proves I’m stupid. Beliefs and personal development

In his article Changing Beliefs, Douglas Cartwright writes about “a biggie – changing toxic and unhealthy beliefs we may have about ourselves.” He notes that in the book Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, “Avy Joseph talks about unhealthy beliefs often being constructed with terms such as ‘must, should’ and ‘have to’. “[Joseph] gives an example of a […]

Building self confidence - reducing our need for approval

Building self confidence – reducing our need for approval

“Part of me suspects that I’m a loser, and the other part of me thinks I’m God Almighty.” John Lennon In his article Would you like to stop worrying about what others think?, Morty Lefkoe explains some of the psychodynamics of low self regard, our need for approval, and how his program can eliminate “I’m […]

Who Do You Think You Are?

Who Do You Think You Are?

Responding to the question: “What kills creativity?”, actor Gillian Anderson once replied succinctly, “Ego.” One sense of this word “ego” is a distorted self-regard, what psychologist Carl Jung referred to as “inflated consciousness… hypnotized by itself.” Many people recognize the need to modulate this kind of ego in order to facilitate the creative process. But […]

Letting Go of Perfectionism

Letting Go of Perfectionism

“We are constantly bombarded with perfection.” This is a poster for the movie “Closer” (2004) with Julia Roberts, Jude Law, Natalie Portman and Clive Owen, directed by Mike Nichols. Flawless faces – probably airbrushed. Owen has been a powerful image and personality to me in all his films I’ve seen – a mensch, someone of strong […]