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Feeling like an impostor

Feeling like an impostor

Charlie Rose introduced Tilda Swinton as an interview guest on his show: “With her magnetic, ethereal charisma and striking androgynous looks, she has perhaps become most famous for her screen interpretations of cold and enigmatic characters. “Her performances are subtle, varied, and unique.” But, she admitted, “I certainly never set out to be an actor, […]

Nurturing Our Self-Esteem - Part 1

Nurturing Our Self-Esteem – Part 1

Comparing ourselves to others may erode how we appreciate our own qualities. Do you talk about yourself to others, and privately in your mind, in ways that discount your abilities and positive qualities? I certainly do. How important is self concept? One of the primary authors and coaches on it is psychologist Nathaniel Branden, who says: “The reputation you […]

Self esteem and actors - low self confidence

Self esteem and actors – low self confidence

Many creative people report feeling incompetent, inadequate and having low self esteem at times. But there are ways to shift those feelings. A number of film actors report they don’t watch their own movies. When you can be seen in close-ups on twenty foot high theater screens, it may be especially hard not to criticize […]

Perfectionism and Depression: What to Do When Being a Perfectionist Drags You Down

Perfectionism and Depression: What to Do When Being a Perfectionist Drags You Down

Here is an excerpt from an article by Sedona Training Associates staff and Hale Dwoskin: Do you ever think the following self-limiting beliefs? * It’s not OK to make a mistake * People will not like me if I’m not perfect * I’ll avoid anything I can’t do well * I’m a failure because I […]

Shamed and Unashamed - Overcoming Low Self Esteem

Shamed and Unashamed – Overcoming Low Self Esteem

Bad to the bone Psychiatrist Michael Lewis, author of the book Shame: The Exposed Self, considers shame to be so powerful because it’s about the perception of having a “defective self.. rotten and no good.” But, he notes, “We don’t want to live in a world in which there is no shame or guilt. We […]

Helen Mirren on miserable self obsession

Helen Mirren on miserable self obsession

Much of this site is about how self-awareness impacts our creativity and personal development. But self-exploration can also get obsessive, or we may not find the right people to help, as Helen Mirren notes in her memoir. Here is an excerpt: Part of my job as an actress is to do interviews, but while I […]

Living authentically takes guts

Living authentically takes guts

“The most courageous thing a person can do is to live an authentic life.” Terri Amos, a spiritual coach, also thinks “We are all worthy of living fully with overflowing abundance. If you don’t believe this for yourself, then I ask that you look at your limiting beliefs… and let me tell you, we all […]

Einstein, Elijah Wood and Other Non-conformists

Einstein, Elijah Wood and Other Non-conformists

Lauren Bacall and her husband ‘Bogie’ often entertained their show-business friends at their home. Bacall was voted “den mother” of what became known as the Holmby Hills Rat Pack. She wrote in her autobiography: “In order to qualify, one had to be addicted to nonconformity, staying up late, drinking, laughing, and not caring what anyone […]

Arianna Huffington on taking control of our negative self-talk

Arianna Huffington on taking control of our negative self-talk

In an article of hers, Arianna Huffington comments about how destructive and self-limiting our inner critic can be. Here are some excerpts: “If we can’t completely stop playing the comparison game, we can at least start changing whom we compare ourselves to… When we do this, we are sure to tap into our reserves of […]

Growing a false self

Growing a false self

In his article How We Become Who We Are Not [from his book The Mandala of Being], Richard Moss, MD outlines the dynamics we may experience in learning to be someone who is not our authentic self. “How do children come to believe that they are indispensable to their parents’ well-being,” he writes, “and that […]

Everyone is the Hero of Their Own Story

Everyone is the Hero of Their Own Story

Rachel Weisz: Everyone walking around the planet is the hero of their own story. Mike Myers: And they can justify to themselves every action that they make. Sidney Lumet said in his book [Making Movies], “Freaks are not the freaks we think they are. We are much more connected to the most outrageous behavior than […]

That cheap slut: We still point fingers

That cheap slut: We still point fingers

Marcy (Amanda Bearse): “That cheap slut of a roommate stole all my boyfriends. I’ve never forgiven Mom for that.”  ["Married with Children" 1987] Calling a girl or woman names like slut or tramp may be flip and comic in a movie or on tv, but in real life it may be hurtful bullying, damaging to […]

Can self-esteem distort our personal development?

Can self-esteem distort our personal development?

Our self-concept, positive self-regard and simply confidence, are key influences on how fully we realize our talents. We do need to feel good about who we are to passionately pursue – or even have – worthwhile ambitions for our lives. But a study led by San Diego State University psychologist Jean Twenge [titled “Egos Inflating […]

Limiting ourselves with self-judgment

Limiting ourselves with self-judgment

“American Idol” finalist Katharine McPhee has acknowledged that she fought a five-year battle with bulimia, and had childhood reading problems that sabotaged her self-esteem and made her turn to food for comfort. “Low self-esteem was huge for me,” McPhee said. “I was always the pretty little girl who was stupid. That was really difficult… I […]

Dealing with self-criticism

Dealing with self-criticism

Criticism saps our passion for life “Certain basic doubts keep Colin from enjoying a truly comfortable sense of superiority.” In a series of podcasts adapted from his book Toxic Criticism, Eric Maisel, PhD talks about how “criticism and self-criticism interfere with our ability to find our life purpose and live as strongly, passionately, and effectively […]

Building Self-confidence and Changing Limiting Beliefs

Building Self-confidence and Changing Limiting Beliefs

Playing most of his screen characters, Will Smith exudes assurance and confidence. But he admits: “I still doubt myself every single day. What people believe is my self-confidence is actually my reaction to fear.” [From my article Talented, But Insecure.] In his article I work to build self-confidence in myself and others, entrepreneur Stephen Pierce […]

Not like the others?

Not like the others?

One of these things is not like the others, One of these things just doesn’t belong, Can you tell which thing is not like the others By the time I finish my song? From Sesame Street song One Of These Things (is Not Like The Others) “Not only did my identity seem tangible, it also […]

Be More Creative: What Is Your Self Concept?

Be More Creative: What Is Your Self Concept?

One reason for discounting our creative abilities is comparing ourselves to other people, especially well-known and successful artists [such as Dean Koontz and Lady Gaga]. And myths about artists being “crazy” or “starving” may also influence how much we may be motivated to live a creative life. View “Be More Creative: What Is Your Self […]

Telling ourselves stories - true and not so true

Telling ourselves stories – true and not so true

“When I was younger, I could remember anything, whether it had happened or not; but my faculties are decaying now and soon I shall be so I cannot remember any but the things that never happened.” – Mark Twain One of the most basic ways we deal with life and find meaning is to create […]

Brief quote: Alfre Woodard

Brief quote: Alfre Woodard

“I didn’t discover I was an artist until I was 17… “It was very hard to be an artist and a child… it was like having sand up your butt when you go to the beach.” Alfre Woodard More quotes on page: Identity See more articles on Self Concept ~~~~ Related articles Toxic Criticism and […]

Creative expression and identity

Creative expression and identity

Creative expression is based on both our inner selves and our abilities, so maybe it is not surprising if we question both our self concept and talents. But our insecurities and doubts may not be just a matter of objective competence. For example, two actors noted for being able to create distinctive and powerful characters […]

Identity and Being Creative

Identity and Being Creative

How does identity impact our lives as creative people, and our creative work? Psychologist Scott Barry Kaufman comments: “Creative expression equals self-expression… So anything we can do to firm up our identity, figure out who we are, separate from others, and what it is we really want to express – that influences our information processing […]

Dealing With Our Critical Inner Voice

Dealing With Our Critical Inner Voice

Our self-critical thinking can hinder personal growth and creative work. One form it can take is fraud and impostor feelings. Actor Emma Watson has commented about its impact for her: “It’s almost like the better I do, the more my feeling of inadequacy actually increases, because I’m just going, Any moment, someone’s going to find […]

Valerie Young on the Expert Trap

Valerie Young on the Expert Trap

In her article How Much Do You Need to Know Before You’re an Expert?, career mentor Valerie Young of Changing Course describes a number of self-limiting beliefs about qualification and competence. Here are some quotes: ‘You’re especially prone to the Expert Trap if you mistakenly believe that competence and expertise are one and the same. […]

Jamie Lee Curtis on the power of self-acceptance to build identity

Jamie Lee Curtis on the power of self-acceptance to build identity

Jamie Lee Curtis on self esteem, building self confidence, self-acceptance, authentic happiness elf acceptance and realistic esteem are crucial to how well we relate to others and express our talents. Being comfortable in our own skins is part of being happy, authentic and free to be creative. The current Success magazine includes a profile of […]

It's okay to look inside

It’s okay to look inside

Creative inspiration and energy can come from many sources, but the most important source is us – our own abilities, thoughts and feelings, including the inner stuff we may not want to look at because we think it is “immoral” or “sick” or otherwise “bad.” Artists, of course, realize that it is not only okay […]

Can self-doubt be a good thing?

Can self-doubt be a good thing?

Some people in positions of power or with celebrity status, such as high profile actors and entertainers, can develop an overblown sense of their importance and abilities. Brad Pitt once admitted, “We are treated as special. We get away with things that other people can’t. And you start to believe the lie that you are […]

Unrecognized Giftedness and Identity

Unrecognized Giftedness and Identity

Embracing our identity as gifted and talented is not easy for many of us to do. Why is this so tough? What beliefs about giftedness get in our way? What leads to unrecognized giftedness for so many people? In his article “How to Charm Gifted Adults into Admitting Giftedness: Their Own and Somebody Else’s,” excerpted below, […]

Self-esteem and self-limiting

Self-esteem and self-limiting

For a few decades, it’s been noted that a large percentage of all gifted students severely underestimate their own abilities. They adopt lower standards for success and expect less of themselves. They underrate the importance of effort, and they overrate how much help they need from a parent. When parents praise their children’s intelligence, they […]

Where are the teen role models?

Where are the teen role models?

In the movie “Nancy Drew,” the heroine (played with style and grace by Emma Roberts) engages and celebrates her intuitive and intellectual abilities as a teen sleuth, and comes to accept the fact she is exceptional, and does not fit in with her high school peers concerned with cliques, clothes and crushes. Yes, it is […]

Jack Canfield on how thinking can sabotage us

Jack Canfield on how thinking can sabotage us

“Sometimes you’ve got to let everything go… purge yourself. If you are unhappy with anything… whatever is bringing you down, get rid of it. Because you’ll find that when you’re free, your true creativity, your true self comes out.” That quote by Tina Turner is from the article Who You Are, by Jack Canfield, who […]