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believe that women have a very powerful and significant role to play in
creating equilibrium in today's world by balancing the feminine and masculine
attributes in business and day-to-day life.
I believe our emerging world cultural needs are once again demanding women to contribute their inherent gifts and to step into their rightful power and leadership roles. When a greater balance of the feminine and the masculine is achieved in the business world and in day-to-day life, we will witness more equity, harmony and success for all. Maureen J. Simon from
profile on Wisdom
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~ Distinction Between Coaching and TherapyPsychotherapy generally deals with emotional or behavioral problems
and often deals with the past or current disruptive situations. Therapists
generally work with a dysfunction to bring the client to normal function.
Therapy is usually done in-person, although at times, it may be done over the telephone.Coaching, whether done in person or through telecoaching, is for already successful,
functional persons who want to move toward higher function and achieve excellence
while creating an extraordinary life.Coaching is a process similar to solution focused techniques that therapists use
for less serious psycho-emotional problems and life stresses.from Therapist University site : therapistu.com
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Most people believe that "hard work and doing it on your own" are the keys to finding the life,
success, money, or happiness that they seek. They believe that a price must be paid to attain
what they want, and often that price is poor health, not having enough time to enjoy life,
strained family relationships or lessened productivity.The saddest part is that, even though this effort may result in more of something, it is often
not the something you had in mind, and you end up back where you started, or worse, further
from your real intentions.Athletes and performers know about this trap. They know they need someone else, a trained
someone else to help them set goals, discover real needs, and work effectively toward ultimate
goals of excellence.So, they are willing to hire a coach or a teacher. No serious athlete or musician would expect
to progress very far without one.from site: Coach University: coachu.com
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****Diana Robinson, Ph.D., Personal Development Coach
"People hire a coach for many reasons, but underneath all the financial and career goals,
the plans for a perfect relationship, and the other STUFF that society tells us we should have,
the true goal is usually a deeper kind of success. It is the success that comes from... knowing
what you really believe, what you really want, and living with true authenticity."
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"Some people fear creativity - they fear that it will be unduly disruptive, and sometimes it is.
Creativity demands something new. This can be threatening to the old. Creativity steps over the lines
of what has been done before, and therefore steps into the territory of the unknown.The unknown can be fearsome. Yet, if you do not become friends with the unknown,
you will never discover new horizons."from page: "The Writer" on her site: ChoiceCoach.com
*related page:**courage
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Coaching as a Spiritual Practice by Richard J. LeiderThere are many unhappy people in the world who are deaf to the call that rings within them. Their path to happiness is not a complicated one. It begins with daring to ask the big questions.
We all have our own way of dealing with life's big questions: Who am I? Why am I here? What was I born to do? These are very puzzling questions.
We can explain some of them scientifically, but that's not the whole picture.
Coaching has always emphasized the connection between our inner and outer worlds and, therefore, the inner and outer connection is the heart of the coaching journey. The soul of coaching is to live with people in the big questions.
In The Soul's Code.., psychologist James Hillman suggests that finding more meaning in our lives is not accomplished by looking "out there." It is actually the opposite -- we look within our hearts and discover what we really love.
Hillman believes, as I do, that each one of us is born with a unique calling or gift, known in Greek as a "daemon." Just as the oak tree is present in the acorn, so each soul is encoded for a particular destiny.
There is a deep hunger in many people to discover that destiny, the connection between inner and outer, the "daemon," the acorn.
The call of coaching carries with it enormous spiritual challenges. Helping people discover their calling is a deep and delicate task.
excerpt from his article "Coaching as a spiritual practice"
Richard Leider is Founding Partner of
The Inventure Group : inventuregroup.com
books:
Whistle While You Work:
Heeding Your Life's Calling - by Richard J. LeiderThe Soul's Code: In Search of Character and Calling
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"During her career, Julia.. had accomplished and contributed a great deal... yet she was still unsatisfied with her career. This dissatisfaction affected every aspect of her life. After deep soul-searching, Julia began to understand that she was a creative free spirit, a woman who was trying to wear a formal suit and work in a traditional environment.
Julia was conflicted as to how to meld her creative nontraditional side with her need to be a success in the working world
Julia and I began working together to identify the path that would get her closer to her true spirit.
She was constantly thinking up new projects and ways to use her creativity but she was shutting her thoughts down. Julia was an idea person whose fantasies could and should become reality.
Within two sessions of working together, she gave herself permission to explore her creative genius and acknowledge that projects such as a photography book, a documentary, acting and new product ideas were not foolish but were viable opportunities for her to pursue.
She felt a freedom and clarity she never felt before."
Suzanne Levy
quotes and photo
from article:
Creative Dreams Come True -
Confessions of a Creativity
Coach by Suzanne Levy
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Coaching is an evolutionary step. God bless therapy, but we've over-pathologized.... The proliferation of therapy has pathologized a whole generation. ... The problem with psychotherapy, a certain part of psychotherapy, is that they [think] they own the rights to behavioral changes. Encouragement, help, airing emotions can help. But psychotherapy does not own the ability to make changes.
Patrick Williams, president and founder of the Institute for Life Coach Training
[LA Times, Sept. 16 2001]
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Coaching is "an industry that is built on people's weaknesses, not their strengths,"
worries Cathy Conheim, a La Jolla-based licensed clinical social worker and therapist."It encourages the belief that we need something outside of ourselves to report to. In therapy
you're learning how to build emotional muscle. Coaching doesn't encourage the tools to be self-regulating."What concerns her most are the hidden issues that a coach who is not professionally trained in the interactions
of mind and body might stumble on. Therapists learn to quickly size up the verbal and nonverbal cues of those
they see. But in coaching, she explains, particularly because of the phone, it's difficult to assess what kind of
support a person needs.A person with bipolar tendencies might need structure, she says, "but a person who is just a healthy neurotic
and not in touch with their feelings, I want to break down their barriers. The difference is very important.
You don't want to go asking someone who is psychologically unsound to do a lot of loosey-goosey stuff
when they are just borderline anyway."[from article: "Coaching Patients, Reinventing Therapists" LA Times, Sept. 16 2001]
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I decided to give Melvin the little verbal phone quiz I sometimes use to evaluate
potential clients before they spend time and money in my office. ..."So, Melvin," I said. "When you were a little kid, did you have an imaginary friend?"
"Excuse me?" said Melvin.
I repeated the question.
"I really don't remember," said Melvin, stiffly."Okay," I said. "Is there anything you do regularly that makes you forget what time it is?"
"Time?" Melvin echoed.
"Yes," I said, "do you ever look up from something you're doing to find that hours and hours
have gone by without your noticing?""Wait," said Melvin. "I have to write this down."
"No, no," I said, "you really don't. Do you laugh more in some situations than in others?""Listen," said Melvin tensely, "I didn't know I was going to have to answer these kinds
of questions. I thought you could tell me a little about midcareer job changes, that's all.
I've had no time to prepare." ...I never heard from Melvin again.
Actually, I never heard from Melvin in the first place--at least not all of him. ... The conversation I had
was with Melvin's "social self," the part of him that had learned to value the things that were valued
by the people around him. This "social self" couldn't tell me what Melvin loved, enjoyed, or wanted,
because it literally didn't know. Those facts did not fall in its area of experience, let alone expertise.It didn't remember Melvin's preferences or his childhood, because it had spent years telling him
to ignore what he preferred and stop acting like a child.There was, of course, a part of Melvin that knew the answer to every question I'd asked him.
I call this the "essential self." Melvin's essential self was born a curious, fascinated, playful
little creature, like every healthy baby.After forty-five years, it still contained powerful urges toward individuality, exploration, spontaneity,
and joy. But by repressing these urges for years and years, Melvin's social self had lost access to them.Martha Beck - from her book Finding Your Own North Star : Claiming the Life You Were Meant to Live
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Thomas J. Leonard
The Portable Coach [excerpt from book]For the sake of your personal and professional success, you need to grasp a new way
of viewing selfishness. Holding on to, and being ruled by, other people's definitions
of selfishness have probably created a barrier that you'll need to break.Because fortune really does favor the brave, and the brave are guided by their own lights.
This is just as true about small concerns as it is about larger ones. And you can strip out
Webster's phrases about disregard of others, and operating at the expense of others. Selfishness,
as defined for our purposes, ultimately allows you to be more generous and supportive of others
than you have ever been before.DISTINCTIONS TO DRAW
Selfish vs. Needy -- Selfishness is a choice. Neediness means you're driven by unmet needs, without choice.
Selfishness vs. Selfulness -- Selfulness means filling up your soul and your self from the inside.
It's a good term to use if you're afraid of selfishness.You vs. Your Roles -- You are distinct from your roles. Selfulness often requires abandoning
or restructuring of roles, so there's room to grow.Need vs. Want -- A need is something required to be yourself, fully at your best. A want just provides
gratification, usually temporary. Both are terrific. Needs are more important.Wants vs. Shoulds -- A want is something you selfishly acquire because it makes you feel good.
Wants can be very healthy and motivating. A should is something you believe you must do,
or suffer consequences. Shoulds generally slow your development.Joy vs. Pleasure -- Joy is intellectual excitement, emotional involvement,
and physical pleasure combined. Pleasure is mostly physical.~ ~
<< image from Thomas J. Leonard site: thomasleonard.com
book: Thomas J. Leonard The Portable Coach
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.. .. Instead, self-actualization, which is another way of saying achieving your greatest potential, means raising the quality of your awareness to simply flow with your life's calling. Do this by connecting to your big mind, knowing that your small mind can only lead you into the trap of believing that you are limited and outside of the elite or the privileged to live extraordinary lives. Everyone has the potential to live to their full potential! Allow yourself to dream big again. Dream as you did when you were a kid. ... |
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are 5 ways you can reconnect to your BIG mind:
1. Write out 1 paragraph about what your life would look like if you were contributing your greatest gift/talent to the world. 2. Make a commitment to stop doing at least 1 thing that is preventing you from living a fulfilling life. 3. Write down at least 3 dreams you have and want to make real. 4. Make a commitment to spend at least 5 minutes this week acknowledging your accomplishments last year. Schedule these 5 minutes in your planner. 5. Think about moments you had this week when you were most fulfilled. These are magical moments or moments that touched the core of your being. Begin a tradition to write these moments down on a journal so that you can look at it and realize how grateful you are and should be. I wish you much leadership in the making, Ruben
Perczek, Ph.D. -
from his article
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WHAT IS CREATIVITY COACHING? The process of Creativity Coaching is basically a series of thought-awakening conversations held either in person, via phone, via email, through workshops or lectures and/or support groups.
Creativity Coaching is not psychotherapy nor the teaching of your craft. I assume you are reasonably well-adjusted and knowhow to write, sing, design, and so on.
Through the Creativity Coaching process, you can learn how to unlock your creative core and access your passion, drive, intuition, courage, and means to manifest your creative potential. ...
Expect that all aspects of your life will be examined at one point or another in relation to your creativity -- as Louis Armstrong put it, "What we play is life."
As coach, I invite individuals and organizations to live up to their creative potential, vision and goals. Creativity Coaching is for people who actively seek to "reach their next creative level" and manifest balance, inspiration, focus, excitement, and meaning in their lives. 
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..Jan-Kees van der Gaag - Coach4Creativity.com
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"If you give birth to the genius within you it will free you. If you do not give birth to the genius within you it will destroy you"
Gnostic Gospel of Thomas [book]quoted on site: Hollywood Coaching
"I believe that everyone has a unique personal expression and vision. We each bring a unique combination of skills and vulnerabilities to our work and life and part of what I do is help people follow those true voices in the back of our mind.
"The ones that surface when our mind is quiet and grounded. The ones that are most true for us yet can often seem in conflict with other people’s agendas for us.
"I believe if we’re doing our best and most personal work, our life will be more satisfying and ultimately more commercially successful." 
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..David Brownstein - of Hollywood Coaching
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human beings merely had to set a goal and then work with a coach to keep
them to stick with their commitments, then bringing about change would
not be as difficult and as short term as it usually is. ... The work of
truly effective coaching involves much more than goal-setting. It involves
unleashing the human spirit and expanding people's capacity to achieve,
stretch goals and bring about real change.
In its simplest terms, masterful coaching involves expanding people's capacity to take effective action. It involves challenging underlying beliefs and assumptions that are responsible for one's actions and behaviors. At its deepest level, masterful coaching examines not only what one does, and why one does what one does, but also who one is. ... it examines what really matters, tests the person's underlying assumptions and beliefs, and considers competing values that may be simultaneously pulling for attention. from
"What Makes for A Masterful Coaching Experience?"
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