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Resources for Introverts and Highly Sensitive People - This page includes articles plus some books, sites, videos and other material about these qualities, their impact on our creative lives, and how we can thrive using the positive aspects.

Books, Products and Programs for Highly Sensitive People - to support your creativity and healthy life as a highly sensitive person.

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articles :

Emerge from shell of shyness - by Wallace Immen
By learning to identify situations when it is holding you back, you can minimize its paralyzing effects. Up to 40 per cent of people experience feelings of shyness to the extent that it can get in the way of their career success, says Ilise Benun, author of a new book, Stop Pushing Me Around, about conquering shyness.

The Gifted Introvert - by Lesley Sword
Western civilisation today is dominated by the extravert viewpoint.  This is because extraverts outnumber introverts 3 to 1, are more vocal than introverts and are more understandable than introverts. However, while introverts are a minority group in society, they form the majority of gifted people. Moreover, it appears that introversion increases with intelligence so that more than 75% of people with an IQ above 160 are introverted.

How Distressing is Social Phobia? – By Michael G. Rayel, M.D. 
Is there any treatment for Social Phobia or Social Anxiety Disorder?  Fortunately, some newer antidepressants are known to work, and cognitive-behavioral intervention also works well. By restructuring the person’s cognition, patients eventually learn to face social situations without fear and uncertainty.

The Inner Critic  (an issue of Living The Creative Life newsletter - includes book references on dealing with destructive self-talk)

Introversion: The Often Forgotten Factor Impacting the Gifted by Jill D. Burruss and Lisa Kaenzig
"Introversion is simply a personality trait found in a small percentage of the total population. Introverts are different from extraverts and this difference is very difficult for the extravert to understand because they do not operate in that fashion. And because they do not understand it, many continually try to help the introvert become more social, more gregarious, more outgoing, and have more fun from the extravert perspective. Such is the situation of the introvert, a minority in the regular population but a majority in the gifted population."

The Rewards of Being Shy - by Michael Hochman
Because shy children appear to be more sensitive to winning and losing, they may experience emotions more strongly than others, putting them at risk for emotional disorders such as anxiety and depression. On the flip side, shy children may experience positive emotions such as success very strongly, helping them succeed.

Self-Marketing Rules For Successful Introverts - by Nancy Ancowitz [CareerJournal - wall street journal career site]
We're about half of the population. We like to think before we speak. We spend time alone because it refreshes us, not because we're lonely. And we would rather have a few in-depth conversations than work the room at a networking event. We're introverts. ... The list of well-known introverts might surprise you. These include Bill Gates, Steve Martin, and the late Katherine Graham, publisher of the Washington Post. Introverts may excel at marketing other people and products, but compared to many extroverts, marketing ourselves does not always come naturally.

Social Anxiety Disorder Fox News article

The Top Ten Gifts of Being an Inner-Directed Individual - by Sarah Dolliver
Inner-directed individuals (introverts, highly sensitive people, etc.) possess special qualities that set them apart from the average person. Still, the double-edged sword of asset or liability exists. This article looks at those particular traits with an eye to recognizing the edge between use and abuse of them.

What Everyone Needs to Know About Introverts - By Sarah Dolliver
Perhaps the most misunderstood personality is the introvert: quiet, timid, keeping to themselves. Introverts are not broken or have something wrong with them. Just because we are different doesn't mean we are flawed. In a world of diversity, personality diversity has yet to reach its full stride.

Why We're Afraid to Speak Up - By Peter Vajda, Ph.D.
For many, in childhood, very early on, when some children wanted to, or attempted to, express their aliveness, their thoughts, their juiciness, their "wisdom", their self, they were often met with resistance...

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Anxiety Disorders Association of America: A national organization for professionals, researchers, clinicians and consumers. Maintains a directory of practitioners working with anxiety disorders including social phobia."

Extraversion/Introversion Inventory

Highly Sensitive

InnerVantage - "the community for those who focus inward to restore. I call our type "inner-directed"...  You can transform this perceived shortcoming into your tangible advantage.  Sarah Dolliver

The Introvert Advantage

The IntrovertZCoach
"Introverts make up only 30% of the population. We are challenged to cope with a world designed by and for extroverts, the "other" 70% of the population. Studies have shown that we will never win by trying to be extroverts. Instead, we must learn to be more ourselves and adapt good coping skills for the world around us."   > articles page

Painful Shyness in Children & Adults - APA / American Psychological Association

Quiet Movies & Famous Innies

Shyness And Social Anxiety Treatment Australia
Information on social anxiety, shyness, depression, blushing, sweating, stress management, children and social anxiety, public speaking anxiety and more.

The Shyness Home Page   "An Index to Resources for Shyness ... Shyness and social phobia do not have to interfere with achieving professional and interpersonal goals. The pain of shyness can be relieved by challenging automatic thoughts and beliefs, and learning new behaviors. This site is a gathering of network resources for people seeking information and services for shyness.
It is sponsored by The Shyness Institute, Palo Alto, California."

The Shyness Research Institute at Indiana University Southeast

Stop Pushing Me Around  - blog for the forthcoming book, Stop Pushing Me Around: A Workplace Guide for the Timid,
Shy and Less Assertive by Ilise Benun.
> from blog post: Are you shy because you think you know? [October 17, 2005]
One of the things that people who consider themselves shy seem to have in common is that they think they know certain things, such as what others are thinking (about them) and what's going to happen.
For example, "If I speak up, they're going to think I'm stupid."
Or, "If I ask for more money, they'll think I'm greedy and I'll never get the job."
Or, "If I make a mistake, they'll get mad and it'll be over."
Is this true?


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Biographies of Famous Introverts - a list of books on Peter the Great; Eisenhower; Stephen Hawking; Albert Einstein;
George Soros; Marie Curie & others

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Frederica J. Balzano, Ph.D., Marsha Boone Kelly.  Why Should Extroverts Make All the Money?: Networking Made Easy for the Introvert

Lynda Barry  How I Overcame Shyness

Jonathan Berent Beyond Shyness : How to Conquer Social Anxieties

Nathaniel Branden  How to Raise Your Self-Esteem

Bernardo J. Carducci Ph.D, Shyness: A Bold New Approach

C. Hope Clark. The Shy Writer: An Introvert's Guide to Writing Success
"If you’ve picked up this book, you have a fear like I do. Or else you desire to help someone who has that fear. This is not a book to make you enjoy speaking and putting on a show in front of strangers. This is a book to help you deal with shyness within the writing world in your own fashion. You do not have to speak at conferences. You do not have to be embarrassed at a book signing. You do not have to hawk your product and feel like a used-car salesman. Or you might have a desire to do all these things but do not know how to start. Your personality is your personality. You write because it meshes well with your character. You do not have to sacrifice yourself to fit someone else’s mold of a writer. Challenge is good for growth, but agony is unhealthy. The comfort level is yours to find.
from book site

Signe A. Dayhoff  Diagonally-Parked in a Parallel Universe : Working Through Social Anxiety
[Library Journal review]  "Social anxiety disorder or social phobia (SA/SP), the intense and incapacitating fear of social interaction, is the third most common psychiatric disorder (after depression and alcoholism). Dayhoff, a social psychologist, author (How to Win in a Tough Job Market), and lecturer who has overcome SA/SP herself, has written a comprehensive self-help guide for sufferers. Dayhoff reviews current research and theories about the origin of SA/SP, but her focus here is on practical ways to recover."

eBooks by Nancy R. Fenn (The IntrovertZCoach)

You Can be an Introvert and Win
"At last, a powerful look at introversion as a legitimate personality style. Stop apologizing for yourself and learn to make the most of your strengths. Most introverts underestimate themselves while extroverts toot their own horns."

Dating Tips for Introverts
"A serious look at introvert relationship styles and needs that is sure to give you confidence and even enthusiasm for the prospect of finding a suitable mate."

Teresa Flynn, Barbara G. Markway Dying of Embarrassment : Help for Social Anxiety & Phobia

Stefan G. Hofmann, Patricia Marten Dibartolo  From Social Anxiety to Social Phobia : Multiple Perspectives
[From the Back Cover:] "...weaves together the research findings gathered by renowned minds across the various scientific disciplines: social psychology, clinical psychology, developmental psychology, psychiatry, and behavior genetics. Chapters deal with both theory and research; each one is written by different contributors... Definition of what constitutes social phobia. Assessment of social phobia and its relationship to other psychological disorders. The biological basis of social phobia. Approaches to treating social phobia. Clinical psychologists and psychiatrists; social and developmental psychologists.."

David W. Johnson  Reaching Out: Interpersonal Effectiveness and Self-Actualization

Marti Olsen Laney. The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World
Dr. Carl Jung described introversion and extroversion as two in-born ways that people gain and lose personal energy. He understood that introversion and extroversion are on a continuum. 

At one end are introverts. They feel depleted by too much external stimulation and are energized by internal sources (ideas, impressions, thoughts). Extroverts, at the other end of the continuum, are energized by external sources (activities, socializing, things) and lose energy during down time.

Some people use both sides of the continuum almost equally. We all possess both ways of increasing and decreasing energy but most of us inherently require more introverting or extroverting to accumulate our energy resources. Shyness is often confused with introversion but it is social anxiety and either introverts or extroverts can be shy.    Marti Olsen Laney, PsyD, MFT - from her site: The Introvert Advantage

Barbara Markway PhD and Gregory Markway PhD. Painfully Shy: How to Overcome Social Anxiety and Reclaim Your Life

Ronald M. Rapee.  Overcoming Shyness and Social Phobia: A Step-By-Step Guide
Mental health professionals can recommend it with confidence, since all of the strategies are firmly grounded in two decades of empirical research. The case examples make the strategies come alive. Readers can work systematically through the nine lessons to conquer social fears on their own or they can use the book in conjunction with ongoing therapy for social phobia. -- from review by Debra A. Hope, PhD, University of Nebraska

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Party of One: The Loners' Manifesto -
by Anneli S. Rufus


Such a simple concept. So concrete. So easy to represent on charts or diagrams with dots and pushpins either in or out. Yet real life is not dots. Some of us appear to be in, but we are out. And that is where we want to be. Not just want but need, the way tuna need the sea....

We do not require company. The opposite: in varying degrees, it bores us, drains us, makes our eyes glaze over. Overcomes us like a steamroller. Of course the rest of the world doesn't understand....

The mob thinks we are maladjusted.

Of course we are adjusted just fine, not to their frequency. They take it personally ///

For some loners, a paucity of friends is a matter of time. There is simply too much to do alone, no time to spare.

Shared time, while not entirely wasted if the sharer is a true friend, must be parceled out with care, like rationed sugar.

And time shared, even with true friends, often requires loners to put in extra time alone, overtime, to recharge. It is a matter of energy: loners as a rule have less for the social machinery, the talk and sympathy. Our fuel runs out.

> from author site

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Franklin Schneier, MD  The Hidden Face of Shyness : Understanding & Overcoming Social Anxiety

Gary Simon  How I Overcame Shyness: 100 Celebrities Share Their Secrets

Philip G. Zimbardo, Shirley L. Radl. The Shy Child : Overcoming and Preventing Shyness from Infancy to Adulthood

Philip G. Zimbardo  Shyness: What It Is, What to Do About It

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