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Introversion is not the same as shyness
- but they are often experienced together.
Many shy people may continue to experience discomfort in social
situations because they limit social interactions to reduce their
anxiety, but also if they tend to be more introverted than extroverted.
Being shy can also relate to being highly sensitive - very aware of and
responsive to other people's moods and judgments - and to our own inner
feelings.
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Elaine Aron, PhD writes:
"Because HSPs (highly sensitive persons) prefer to look before entering
new situations, they are often called "shy." But shyness is learned,
not innate. In fact, 30% of HSPs are extraverts, although the trait is
often mislabeled as introversion. It has also been called
inhibitedness, fearfulness, or neuroticism. Some HSPs behave in these
ways, but it is not innate to do so and not the basic trait."
From her
site The
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Sigourney
Weaver on being shy
Sometimes
because I am very shy, when I meet a director and they are shy too, we
just sort of sit there.
I remember when I met Ang Lee and we were left
alone -- we were supposed to have tea with each other ...
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... I was
so shy
and he was so shy neither of us said anything to each other for about
20 minutes. Finally, we started talking about
"The Ice Storm."
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from article : Keeping us guessing - Drama? Comedy? Sci-fi? Nothing is
too alien for Sigourney Weaver - by Susan King, Los Angeles
Times Jan 30, 2005
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photo: as Lt. Ellen Ripley in Alien: Resurrection (1997)
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are wired differently from extraverts and they have different needs.
Extraverts get their energy from interaction with people and the
external world. Introverts get their energy from within themselves; too
much interaction drains their energy and they need to retreat from the
world to recharge their batteries.
People
can be extreme extraverts, extreme introverts, or a combination of
both. Since extraversion is the dominant mode in our society, there are
no "closet extraverts," but there are many "closet introverts," people
who are so ashamed of their introversion that they try to be extraverts.
Introverts
belong to two distinct groups :
Group
A: Self-sufficient, confident, hardworking, with firm goals,
self-actualizing, reserved, preferring activities that involve inner
experience and introspection; and
Group B: Shy,
timid, withdrawn with low self-concept, lacking in communication
skills, demonstrating fear of people, dread of doing things in front of
others, who prefer being left alone.
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Austria's Elfriede
Jelinek won the Nobel Prize for Literature
on
Thursday for novels and plays that starkly depict violence against
women, explore sexuality and condemn far-right politics in
Europe.
The 57-year-old author, best-known for her
semi-autobiographical novel "The
Piano Teacher" -- made into a
movie in 2001 -- was a surprise winner. She is the first Austrian and
ninth woman to win literature's highest accolade.
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Jelinek said at her Viennese home she
felt "more
desperation than happiness" at the news, telling Reuters it would turn
her into what she "never wanted to be -- a person in the public
eye."
The reclusive writer, said by one editor to "show
no mercy either to her themes or to herself," said she would not
collect the 10 million crown ($1.36 million) prize in person.
"I am not mentally able to withstand that. I have
a social phobia and cannot stand these large crowds of people," she
said.
Her unemotional descriptions of the power play in
sex and human relations, and outspoken political views, have alienated
many in her native Austria but have also won her respect as a fearless
feminist writer who makes bold use of language...
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Reuters, Oct 7 2004 / photo by Jacqueline Godany/Reuters
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It was the most
terrifying thing I've ever done [her off-Broadway stage debut in The
Glory of Living].
I'd been working in front of a camera since I was
a kid, but the only live audience I'd ever faced was when I stood up in
front of the class and delivered a book review. I'm enormously
shy.
Anna Paquin....
[Parade, Aug 3 2003]
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excerpt
from UCLA news article
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Shyness Can Be
Deadly :
UCLA scientists identify how introverts' stress response
increases their risk of infectious disease, including AIDS
How
you react to stress influences how easily you resist or succumb to
disease,
including viruses like HIV, discovered UCLA AIDS Institute
scientists.
Reported
in the Dec.15 edition of Biological Psychiatry, the new findings
identify
the immune mechanism that makes shy people more susceptible to
infection
than outgoing people.
"Since
ancient Greece, physicians have noticed that persons with a
'melancholic
temperament' are more vulnerable to viral infections," said Steve Cole,
principal investigator and assistant professor of hematology-oncology
at
the David Geffen School of Medicine and a member of the UCLA AIDS
Institute.
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"During
the AIDS epidemic, researchers found that introverted people got sick
and
died sooner than extroverted people," said Bruce Naliboff, co-author
and
a clinical professor at the UCLA Neuropsychiatric Institute and
Veterans
Affairs Greater Los Angeles Healthcare System.
"Our
study pinpoints the biological mechanism that connects personality and
disease."
The
UCLA team studied the effect of stress on viral replication in a group
of 54 HIV-infected men. All of the men were still in the early stages
of
the disease and in good health. ...
The
researchers put each man through a series of stress tests in the lab to
measure the response of their autonomic nervous system.
First,
the scientists monitored the subject's response to a tiny stimulus,
such
as an unexpected beeping sound. ....
"Shy
persons didn't adapt to the beeps as fast as other people," Cole said.
"Their heightened nervous system response indicated that the sound was
more irritating to them."
image:
representation of human
immunodeficiency
virus from niaid.nih.gov
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Nancy
Fenn,
TheIntrovertzCoach:
The
biggest
difference is that extroverts deal almost exclusively with a world
outside
themselves while introverts take the world within to process
it.
If
that sounds
a little mysterious, the best way to tell in a heartbeat is that
extroverts
get energy interacting with other people and with the stimuli in the
environment
(noise, lights, motion) while introverts get very drained by this. ...
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I
have a word of caution for introverts here. An ounce of prevention is
worth
a pound of cure. Why not raise a little consciousness instead?
Explain
to your
friends and family that you're an introvert. They may not know what
this
means and a little educating goes a long way. ...
It's
time to
stop apologizing for yourself and your legitimate needs and interests.
Introverts like Warren Buffett, Michael Jordan and Steven
Spielberg
made it to the top by being exactly who they are and you can too.
from
interview in November 2003 GLOBAL:EQ
newsletter
Nancy
Fenn site theintrovertzcoach.com
"tips,
resources and support... a series of ebooks: "You Can be an Introvert
and
Win" etc
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is not
inertia alone that is responsible for human relationships repeating
themselves
from case to case, indescribably monotonous and unrenewed.
It
is shyness
before any sort of new and unforseeable experience with which one does
not think oneself able to cope.
But
only
someone
who is ready for everything, who excludes nothing, not even the most
enigmatical,
will live the relation to another as something alive.
...Rainer
Maria Rilke. Letters
to a Young Poet
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Shyness
Shows Up in Brain Scans, Study Finds -
Kids
May
Inherit Shyness, Study Suggests
Reuters
& AP stories -- Jun 19, 2003
The
brains of shy people overreact when they see strange new faces, which
may
explain personality differences and also offer ways to treat anxiety
disorders,
U.S. researchers said on Thursday.
Even
people who have seemingly overcome their innate shyness have an
extra-strong
reaction in the amygdala, the emotional center of the brain, when shown
a new face, the researchers found.
People
who had been judged as toddlers to be inhibited showed in the scans
that
the amygdala structure in their brains responded much more actively to
unexpected sights than did those subjects who had been judged as
children
to be more outgoing, said Jerome Kagan, a researcher in the department
of psychology at Harvard University.
"That
is support for the notion that the reason they were shy, timid and
reserved
when they were 2 years old is because they had an excitable amygdala,"
said Kagan.
This
suggests that shyness is a temperament that can be inherited, but the
researcher
said this temperament does not necessarily determine one's eventual
personality.
"They
are now 22 years old," Kagan said of the test subjects. "A lot of the
ones
who were fearful aren't fearful anymore. They have overcome it. But the
question is, did they still have a very active amygdala."
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Based
on the brain scans, Kagan said, the answer is clearly yes.
Tests
were conducted on 13 people who had been evaluated as shy as
2-year-olds.
The results were compared tests on nine people who had been evaluated
as
children to be outgoing and bold.
"We
had assumed, but never measured, that ... the shy, inhibited group had
inherited a certain chemistry" in the amygdala, Kagan said. ....
Although some
children are shy and others are outgoing, he said, these traits can
change with time and life experiences. "People overcome their shyness,"
Kagan said. "You can also acquire shyness."
> book .Psychology:
An Introduction -- by Jerome Kagan
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Carl Jung described introversion and extroversion as two in-born ways
that
people gain and lose personal energy.
He
understood that introversion and extroversion are on a
continuum.
At
one end are introverts. They feel depleted by too much external
stimulation
and are energized by internal sources (ideas, impressions,
thoughts).
Extroverts,
at the other end of the continuum, are energized by external sources
(activities,
socializing, things) and lose energy during down time.
Some
people use both sides of the continuum almost equally. We all possess
both
ways of increasing and decreasing energy but most of us inherently
require
more introverting or extroverting to accumulate our energy resources.
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Shyness
is often confused with introversion but it is social anxiety and either
introverts or extroverts can be shy.
Marti
Olsen
Laney,
PsyD, MFT -
from
her site: The
Introvert Advantage
...The
Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World
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see Lucinda as someone who's definitely reaching forward but there's
nowhere
for her emotion to go. Peter wrote about the sensation she had sitting
inside a corset, which he described as a "crinoline cage."
That's
such a metaphor for how she exists in the world: She keeps banging into
things, and doesn't know why she keeps bruising herself. She meets
Oscar,
who's got no skin on his emotions and no skin on his bones - Ralph
[Fiennes]
lost quite a lot of weight for the part: he was a stick
insect.
Really
isolated people don't develop skin the same way that people who are
more
socialized do.
Cate
Blanchett...[Interview,
Jan. 1998] - about
portraying her character
in movie
based
on the book Oscar
and Lucinda - by Peter Carey
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Acting
always
seemed like an odd choice for someone as shy as I am. I don't really
start
conversations with strangers. I am a big homebody. But I get so excited
about bringing a character to life and imagining what their world is
like
that I forget to be nervous. I guess I hide behind a role.
Alison
Lohman....
[eonline.com 2003]
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