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Bridget Jones Diary: Introverted gal often embarrassed by foot in mouth disease finally stumbles onto introverted good guy. Notting Hill: Introverted
Movie Star [Julia Roberts] has a hit and miss relationship with October Sky: Introverts are persistent and talented Chocolat: Introverted gal whips up remedies for others lives, finally finds her own secret sauce Harry Potter - Introverted young wizard One True Thing [dvd]
[right]: Through illness, introverted daughter [Renee Zellweger] |
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Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis, Former First Lady; Norman Rockwell, American Painter ElieWiesel, Author of Night and other titles; Diane Sawyer, Newswoman and Anchor actors Joan Allen, Ellen Burstyn, Glenn Close, Noah Wiley, Laura Linney [right] |
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"As a child, I was very shy. Painfully, excruciatingly shy. I hid a lot in my room. I was so terrified to read out loud in school that I had to have my mother ask my reading teacher not to call on me in class." Kim Basinger
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Introverts have a lower threshold for stimulation than Extraverts, so they're inclined to reflect more on external claims for their attention. Because Introverts need less stimulation from the environment, their sense of identity is configured differently from an Extravert's.
They have the distinct luxury of deciding which aspects of a situation to endow with meaning, and they try to do this in accordance with their own needs, potential, and expectations. ...
Introverts generally feel most comfortable when the environment is closely aligned with their self-experience, and they may seem quite Extraverted in such contexts.For example, when external boundaries are clear and congenial to an Introvert's needs -- a dinner with friends, a classroom hour, preaching from the pulpit -- the type can be outgoing
and revealing, and talk at great length.Although this looks like Extraverted behavior, strictly speaking, it isn't. Extraversion moves us to adjust ourselves to outer reality, whereas an Introvert is usually content because the outer
situation is well matched to his or her inner world.Just as Extraverts derive energy from other-oriented participation, Introverts are energized when their inner world is engaged.
However, the kind of energy that Introverts experience is different from the Extraverted sort. Extraverts who feel energized are likely to seek more stimulation ...
Introverted energy prompts one to stay in one place and go deeper. This is precisely the type of behavior that Extraverts find taxing.
**from book: ** Lenore Thomson
Personality Type - An Owner's Manual
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I've been acting for as long as I've been shy. I wouldn't say my insecurities and shyness have lessened just because of expressing myself through acting, but what has a role in my becoming more confident is the kind of false sense of adoration you get from the business... Everyone always telling you how great you are, like as soon as you're in a couple of movies, then you have the right to walk around with your chin up and your chest out. For the average cat, that might have a bad effect, but for me, because I was so insecure, it gives me a reason to be a little more confident." Taye Diggs [from interview by Douglas Eby]
"I am very shy - really shy - I even had a stutter as a kid, which I slowly got over, but I still regress into that shyness. So I don't like walking into a crowded restaurant by myself; I don't like going to a party by myself." Nicole Kidman [Talk mag., Sept.2000]
"On the surface, I was an all-American teenager, a rah-rah cheerleader type. But deep down I was a shy and lonely outsider. It took some long years of self-reflection to break through my old fears and come into my own." Sela Ward [Parade mag. 10.29.00]
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I really hate to do shows that have an audience. I get very nervous - so nervous that I tend to vacate my body... One of the things I do [when being a presenter at award shows] - even just to make it through all the photographers - is put on a costume. A movie star costume, so I'm essentially just acting.
Daryl Hannah *****[Los Angeles mag. April, 1992]
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* Do you feel shy and self-conscious in social situations?* Are you plagued with self-doubts about how you come across to others?
* Do you feel physically sick with worry about certain situations that involve interacting with others?
* Do you make excuses, or even lie to avoid the social situations you dread?
* Do you make important decisions based on whether you'll have to participate in groups
or speak in front of others?If you answered yes to any of these questions, you're not alone.
Millions of people experience social anxiety of painful shyness
to such a degree that it disrupts their daily lives.In fact, as many as one out of every eight Americans will at some point
suffer from what's called social anxiety disorder, or social phobia.Social anxiety disorder is a real problem. But fortunately, it's also one that can be overcome.
from book: Barbara Markway PhD and Gregory Markway PhD. Painfully Shy: How to
Overcome Social Anxiety and Reclaim Your Life
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Sensitivity To Rewards May Distinguish Extraverts From Introverts -- Findings in United States replicated in 39 other countries...
A new study which looks at the cross-cultural fundamental features of the extraversion personality trait indicates that extraverts
find social situations more rewarding than introverts, not because they are more sociable, but because they are more sensitive
to the rewards inherent in most social situations.from article by American Psychological Association (posted on ScienceNews 9/13/2000)
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"Introversion is clearly much more than self-absorption, self-focus, or self-centeredness.
It is life energy withdrawn into the individual's internal existence. It is a negative relation
toward objects (phenomena) and a positive relationship to existence (noumenon)." -from article: Jung and Philosophy, by William R. Clough, M.A., D.Min, M.Div.
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"Well, if I really am talking to my shrink now, I think [my artistic side] came from a need
to express myself. I was very shy as a child and it gave me an outlet for being able to
articulate certain emotions, which were probably quite stunted..."[Were the convent years partially to blame for that, do you think?]
"Possibly. I suffer from terrible guilt to this day, all through my life. And I know that I'm very
self-deprecating in my manner and I know that it must come from the first sixteen years of
my life being surrounded by nuns... It's an experience that leaves its mark."Catherine McCormack [Venice magazine]
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"I think for a long time, I wasn't very good. I was too shy." Emily Watson ...........
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"I'm Black. I'm solitary. I've always been an outsider." ///
"Shynes isn't cute or feminine or appealing. It's torment."writer Octavia Butler
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up in class, Sandra Cisneros often received poor grades while attending
Catholic schools in Chicago.
Her Mexican American mother and her Mexican father, however, both knew the importance of education. ... Although Cisneros learned to study hard, she was still too shy to share her creative writings at school. She felt many of her early teachers were not interested in her experiences. Finally, in the tenth grade, Cisneros was encouraged by one of her teachers to read her works to the class. She was also encouraged to work on the school's literary magazine and eventually became its editor. ... After high school, Cisneros attended Loyola University in Chicago to study English. Her father thought she might find a good husband if she went to college. What Cisneros discovered instead was the desire to be a writer. After graduating from college, encouraged by another teacher who recognized her writing talent, Cisneros enrolled in the poetry section of the Iowa Writer's Workshop, a highly respected graduate school for aspiring writers. Cisneros's old fears about sharing her writings with others soon came back. Many of Cisneros's classmates had come from more privileged backgrounds than she had, and she felt she could not compete with them. |
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explained.. "It didn't take me long to learn -- after a few days of
being there -- that nobody cared to hear what I had to say and no one
listened to me even when I did speak. I became very frightened and
terrified that first year."
She soon realized, however, that her experiences as a Mexican American and as a woman were very different, but just as important as anything her classmates wrote about. "It was not until this moment when I separated myself, when I considered myself truly distinct, that my writing acquired a voice," she explained... Out of this insight came her first book, The House on Mango Street. from The Gale Group profile Writer, poet, performance artist Sandra Cisneros.. received an MFA from the Iowa Writers' Workshop... has received, among other awards and fellowships, the Lannan Literary Award, The American Book Award and a MacArthur Foundation fellowship. -- excerpt from bio from Identity Theory interview by Robert Birnbaum |
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"When I was in high school (Ocean City, New Jersey, High), I was very curious and very shy.
The way I could (and did) indulge my curiosity most effectively was through my job on the school
newspaper. Journalism is ideally suited to people who are both curious and shy; it affords such
individuals a "license" (i.e., press card) to intrude into other people's privacy, to ask questions,
and to expect answers -- even to questions that, in any other circumstance, would get the
interrogator a bop on the nose."Gay Talese (Journalist and author) - from book: Gary Simon. How I Overcame Shyness
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"I think I'm a weird combination of deeply introverted and very daring. I can feel both those things working." ***Helen Hunt***[LA Times 9.10.00] ~ ~ ~ [You've said you were very shy as a child. Did acting help you overcome that?]
Helen Hunt: It helped a little bit. I've always had to force myself to make friends and speak to people. My parents were quiet, and it took me a while to get used to the fact that people talk about their feelings, their problems. So it wasn't until my early twenties that I really started to come out of my shell.
I was very shy and I still am in many ways. I'm afraid of meeting people. I'm still not the kind of person who can go up and talk to people at a party. I just don't feel that comfortable in social situations unless I'm surrounded by friends." [imdb.com]
***Mira Sorvino
"I don't consider myself repressed, but I probably have a certain kind of formality that I was raised with that I don't often
transgress with people I don't know well. It's certainly not out of my being snobbish or anything. I'm just trying to be the
well-brought-up, attentive, good girl. ... I think there's a certain amount of reserve that's respectable."But respectable or not, Mira knows that there's something to be said for removing the self-censoring device, for not being
as concerned with how she's coming across, and just letting her personality take over."I'd kinda like to get to that place. I'd enjoy feeling that comfortable and confident. Right now I'm not yet there. But I think I'm getting
more like that. Two years ago I was a lot more shy and studied. I would just listen and only proffer very well thought-out responses.
It comes, I think, from being a student and being with professors and feeling like you should only speak when you have something
very cogent to say. Otherwise you listen, you take it in, you learn."That was how I was acting when I first got on the [set for 'Mighty Aphrodite']. Then I realized I could actually have the
confidence to be friendly and outgoing. People surprise me when they say 'Wow, we thought you were cold and aloof,
but you're really fun.' It's like, I'm cold and aloof? Really? I'm always a little afraid of people."It comes from being a kid, feeling secure and having all these friends. And then we moved, and I was the new kid. And that
new kid feeling never really left me. I always feel like, 'Oh, God, that person's not going to like me."So I'm very careful about not being unlikable, which actually leaves them with nothing. But I think recently that has begun
breaking down some and I'm getting to be more open. I have more fun, I think. I'm still very serious about the work, though,
and that's something people confuse with a lack of fun feeling. Actually, I think very few people know who I am."from Nice Girls Finish First by Tim Rhys, MovieMaker magazine
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exploited, or otherwise coerced to cheat for them. To compensate for his adolescent
loneliness, his inner imaginary life became greatly enriched."about software expert Nikko Silvano - from book Secrets of the Superyoung
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"As a teen... I didn't feel good about being a Black woman.
I always felt it was a curse that I was female, and I always tried to be something else,
taking more masculine traits, wearing baggy clothes, hiding my body...
["Ain't I A Woman" by bell hooks] really helped me find myself, my true self as a woman."Jada Pinkett [from personal interview by Douglas Eby]
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As someone who suffered for quite awhile with social anxiety, the reason why I'm coming out and telling everybody about that is to let them know that I was treated, that there is help. ... contact the Social Anxiety Disorder Coalition because you don't have to suffer from it. Donny Osmond [from Allhealth.com interview]
**book: **Life Is Just What You Make It -- My Story So Far
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If you are shy, it means you are a great noticer of things and people because you are so scared of things
and people and new situations that you have to notice everything about them in order to keep yourself alert
because being shy feels like being in constant danger, which is awful.But the one good thing about being a great noticer of things and people is that's what artists and writers
and great reporters and filmmakers and songwriters are, and where do you think it mostly comes from?From the hard, dangerous early days that usually turn out to have been worth it. Really worth it.
Keep your eyes and ears and mind always open, even if you can't make the right words come
instantly out of your mouth, and as much as possible try to make things, because things made by
shy people are a lot of times the most useful.Lynda Barry - cartoonist and author - from book: Gary Simon. How I Overcame Shyness
image from her book One Hundred Demons
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1. All sorrow has its root in man's inability to sit quiet in a room by himself. (Blaise Pascal) 2. No one would talk much in society, if he knew how often he misunderstands others.
(Johann Wolfgang von Goethe)3. I would rather be poor in a cottage full of books than a king without the desire to read.
(Thomas Macaulay)4. The less you speak, the more you will hear. (Alexander Solshenitsen)
5. Solitude is the place of purification. (Martin Buber)
~ ~from The Top 10 Inspirational Quotes from Famous People
with Introverted Perspective - page 1 / page 2quotes submitted by The IntrovertZCoach
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