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....articles:   Are You Addicted To Your Activities? - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D. Activities - such as sports, creative projects, reading, work, TV, meditation - can be a wonderful way to relax, express yourself, or connect to yourself. Or they can be an addiction. How can you know the difference? Counseling Issues with Recognized and Unrecognized Gifted Adults by Mary Rocamora "This article describes the issues most frequently encountered in therapy with gifted and talented adults, particularly those in the performing arts. A distinction is drawn between those clients who knew they were gifted and those who at first did not." Creative Juice - A Dozen Key Lessons for Creative Dreamers - by Suzanne Falter-Barns Dealing with the Stereotype of Underachievement - by James Delisle, Ph.D. The best description I ever heard of the word "lazy" is "people who are not motivated in ways you want them to be." This same description could also be given to the word "underachievement," one of the most overused and misapplied terms used in our field. Ending Procrastination - by Jim Rohn Perseverance is about as important to achievement as gasoline is to driving a car. ... The opposite of perseverance is procrastination. Perseverance means you never quit. Procrastination usually means you never get started, although the inability to finish something is also a form of procrastination. I'm going to tell you how to overcome procrastination... how to turn procrastination into perseverance, and if you do what I suggest, the process will be virtually painless. Entitled to Be Exceptional  - by Douglas Eby Psychologist Matina Horner, in a 1969 report on her doctoral dissertation research, identified what came to be called the Horner Effect, or Fear of Success syndrome: that women characteristically under-achieve when competing against men.  Feeling like an impostor   by Douglas Eby "Sometimes I wake up at night and go, What were they thinking? Don't they know I'm faking it?" Getting Yourself Back On Track - By Dianne Hales The Gifted Underachiever - by Josh Shaine Gifted underachievers are usually lumped in with the rest of a school's malcontents. Teachers, counselors, and administrators look too shallowly for underlying factors, while ascribing too readily mental, physical, or emotional handicaps to underachievers. /// We need to identify the potential hidden behind the problems of these bright and unhappy youngsters, and help our students to recognize and develop their abilities. The Inner Critic  by Sharon Good Internal barriers, personal issues, and decisions faced by gifted and talented females - by Sally M. Reis, Ph.D. Motivational Paralysis - by Anna Caveney Negative self-talk - by Douglas Eby The Pain and (half) Pleasures of Rejection - Getting past negative opinions - by Todd Pitock "Then there are "self-handicappers," people who are so afraid of failing that they manufacture excuses for falling short or even sabotage their own chances in advance, such as the student who stays out all night before a major exam, or the person who tells everyone in advance that they don't care about the result, even when a lot is clearly at stake."    excerpts from article  Personality Traits of a Real Writer -  by Julie Hood - OrganizedWriter.com -  Tools for the business of writing MESSY VS. ORGANIZED Certain personality types crave "messes." The clutter makes them feel comfortable. But it also eats away at their writing time since they spend it searching through piles of papers and old half-eaten sandwiches. The secret for the messy writer is to confine the messes to a "messy zone." .... PROCRASTINATOR The procrastinating writer writes the book but never sends the manuscript. Their brilliant ideas pile up, but they never send a query. There's always a better time…later. Unfortunately, the procrastinator never feels the joy of success. PERFECTIONIST The perfectionist writes the book but never finishes it. They are constantly revising, editing and reworking. This time eater takes away the fun of writing. Since nothing is ever good enough, what's the point of writing anything? The perfectionist needs positive feedback and reinforcement. When they hear others say, "This is really good. You should submit it," they can silence the inner critic that says, "You could make it sound better." What is a real writer? It's actually anyone who puts words to paper and sends them out into the world.  And while anyone can sit down with a word processor, only real writers overcome the personality traits that could sidetrack them.   Self-Defeating Behavior may be Ruining Your Chances of Success at Home and on the Job - by Loraine O"Connell Self-Knowledge, Self-Esteem and the Gifted Adult by Stephanie S. Tolan Self-Sabotage: The Opposite of Self-Care - By Linda Dessau Have you ever gone out of your way to NOT take care of yourself? Does it ever seem like you're working against yourself? Do you ever ask yourself "Why did I do that??". The dictionary definition of sabotage is "an act or process tending to hamper or hurt" or "deliberate subversion". Hmmm. Why on earth would we sabotage ourselves? That's a complicated answer. And a simple one. We choose to. Simple and Easy Procrastination Buster - by Deanne Repich "I'll do it... tomorrow." Sound familiar? Procrastination -- putting things off until the last moment --or beyond the last moment, is a common problem. For anxiety sufferers, procrastination can really do a number on us mentally and physically. It can put our fight or flight response into high gear and trigger a rush of anxiety symptoms. Here's the good news: Procrastination is a habit that you can change! Sleep and Creativity - By Linda Dessau In my life, sleep is the number one way that I can either enhance my self-care and nourish myself or defeat my self-care and deplete my energy, peace of mind & productivity all in one shot. Stop This Secret Self-Sabotage - by Guy Finley We're often led to act against ourselves by an undetected weakness that goes before us -- trying to pass itself off to others -- as a strength. This is secret self-sabotage. It sinks us in our personal and business relationships as surely as a torpedo wrecks the ship it strikes. Learning how to stop this self-sinking is the focus of this exercise. Striving for achievement - an interview with Kenneth Christian, Ph.D. - by Douglas Eby A psychologist and corporate consultant on maximizing personal and organizational potential, Dr. Christian identifies a wide range of challenges people may face in striving for higher levels of achievement and personal meaning. He is author of the book, Your Own Worst Enemy: Breaking the Habit of Adult Underachievement Summary of Current Research Findings about Underachievement - by Sally M. Reis First, it appears that underachievement often begins in elementary school, perhaps due to an unchallenging curriculum. There appears to be a relationship between inappropriate or too-easy content in elementary school and underachievement in middle or high school. Second, underachievement appears to be periodic and episodic, occurring in some years and not others, and in some classes but not others. However, increasing episodes of underachievement may produce a more chronic pattern. Supporting creative achievement - an interview with therapist Lynne Azpeitia - "The people I see are multitalented, creative and artistic high-achieving persons. ... "People are capable of being expressive, but often they are interfered with or misinterpreted in these areas. So my job is to help them identify when they are in that fluid and creative state, and help them look at how they got there, and on purpose how to make those things happen." Underachievement from the Inside Out - By Josh Shaine Perhaps the most upsetting part of being an underachiever with a lot of potential is the accusation, first from your parents and then from yourself, that you are somehow doing "it" intentionally. /// It is true that these behaviors, some internally driven and some learned, will continue to be a part of your life. Long range deadlines will always present more of a challenge than you might like them to. /// There are ways to cope with the differences that make some types of tasks difficult. There are jobs in which the way you work is far more valuable than traditional academic strategies would be. The Underachievement of Gifted Students: What Do We Know and Where Do We Go? - by Sally M. Reis & D. Betsy McCoach The process of defining underachievement, identifying underachieving gifted students, and explaining the reasons... continues to stir controversy among practitioners, researchers, and clinicians. Despite this interest, the underachievement of gifted students remains an enigma. This article reviews and analyzes three decades of research... When Having It All Isn't Everything  by Patricia Kitchen A psychologist theorizes that high fliers feel oppressed by the very achievement they should be proud of. Women of Talent - Power and Leadership  - by Douglas Eby In an article of hers, Harriet Rubin notes there can be harmful aspects to pursuing leadership: "Many people are reaching the top, using all of their means to get money, power, and glory - and then self-destructing." ~ ~ ~ ~

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Changing Course - "Career counselor Valerie Young abandoned her corporate cubicle to become the Dreamer in Residence at ChangingCourse, offering resources to help you discover your life mission and live it. An expert on the Imposter Syndrome, she's presented her How to Feel as Bright and Capable as Everyone Seems to Think You Are program to over 30,000 people."

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Steven Berglas, PhD, Roy F. Baumeister, PhD. Your Own Worst Enemy: Understanding the Paradox of Self-Defeating Behavior
While many of us may practice self-defeating behavior, most of us -- contrary to conventional wisdom -- don't really harbor a secret death wish, aver psychotherapist Berglas (The Success Syndrome : Hitting Bottom When You Reach the Top) and research psychologist Baumeister (Meanings of Life). Observing that self-defeating acts can take myriad and devious forms, they compile numerous examples of how people create their own obstacles. Berglas and Baumeister buttress their list of self-sabotaging mechanisms with references to such memorable self-defeaters as Greta Garbo and Gary Hart.

Pamela Brill, Ed.D. The Winner's Way

Lucia Capacchione and Peggy Van Pelt. Putting Your Talent to Work

Kenneth W. Christian, PhD. Your Own Worst Enemy: Breaking the Habit of Adult Underachievement
"Self Limiting High Potential Persons.. etch enduring pathways over time by repeating their
characteristic self-defeating methods... this tendency can evolve into a general self-limiting style...." 

Don Hutcheson, Bob McDonald, Ph.D. Don't Waste Your Talent : The 8 Critical Steps to Discovering What You Do Best -- Each of us is born with talents to be remarkable at something. The secret is identifying those talents and then using them. So, what makes a person successful? Hutcheson and McDonald have posed this question to thousands of people throughout their careers. Everyone's story is different. But one thing is the same: successful people do what they do best every day. They are guided by a clear personal vision - an accurate and precise picture of the work that expresses them best. For the authors, success means satisfaction, productivity, self-expression, connectedness and meaning.

Mary-Elaine Jacobsen. The Gifted Adult: A Revolutionary Guide for Liberating Everyday Genius

Lisa Jimenez. Conquer Fear : A Unique Blend of Psychology and Theology to Change Your Beliefs -- And Thus Your Results  --  "Fear of rejection. Fear of making decisions. Fear of change. Fear of failure. And, of course, the big one - fear of success! It is this fear (and all of its cousins, like worry, anxiety, and self-doubt) that paralyzes you and keeps you from succeeding. ... These negative belief barriers are powerful motivators that will actually cause you to repel success.... The problem isn't just your fear. No, your fear represents a powerful, self-limiting belief! Until your beliefs are identified and replaced with empowering beliefs, no amount of positive thinking will help you create and attain success."

Diane Montgomery. Able Underachievers

Alan E. Nelson, John C. Maxwell. My Own Worst Enemy: Overcoming Nineteen Ways We Defeat Ourselves
Alan Nelson, M.A., Ed.D., is founding and senior pastor of Scottsdale Family Church in Arizona. ...
Some people can't seem to get ahead in life even when they try to improve relationships or situations. Alan Nelson suggests that their setbacks result from attitudes that affect their behaviors, whether they are aware of it or not. My Own Worst Enemy describes nineteen ways people sabotage their lives. Each chapter provides readers with a definition and the dangers of a "behavitude"-behaviors that stem from attitudes - such as guilt, living in the past, and self-sufficiency. Nelson addresses the "why" behind such behavior and offers solutions readers can use to begin changing their lives.

Dan Neuharth, PhD. Secrets You Keep from Yourself : How to Stop Sabotaging Your Happiness

Gene F. Ostrom, PhD. Why Smart People Do Stupid Things

Dan Robey. The Power of Positive Habits
"If greater success, improved self-esteem and happiness are your life destinations, The Power of Positive Habits can take you there! This is a simple but powerful program that can transform your life."
Jack Canfield - #1 NY Times Best-selling author, “Chicken Soup for the Soul” 

"Wherever you are in life, your habits determine 95% of your thoughts, feelings and actions. This book shows you how to develop the lifelong habits for great success." Brian Tracy, Motivation Expert and Author

 Barry Schwartz. The Paradox of Choice: Why More Is Less
"As Americans, we assume that more choice means better options and greater satisfaction. But beware of excessive choice: choice overload can make you question the decisions you make before you even make them, it can set you up for unrealistically high expectations, and it can make you blame yourself for any and all failures. In the long run, this can lead to decision-making paralysis, anxiety, and perpetual stress..."

C.R. Snyder, R. L. Higgins. Self-Handicapping: The Paradox That Isn't

Robert J. Sternberg, PhD. Why smart people can be so stupid

Noah St. John. Permission To Succeed

Pauline Wallin, Ph.D. Taming Your Inner Brat: A Guide for Transforming Self-Defeating Behavior

Janet Geringer Woititz. The Self-Sabotage Syndrome: Adult Children in the Workplace
 

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