....articles:
Are You Addicted To Your
Activities? -
by
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
Activities - such as sports, creative projects, reading, work, TV,
meditation - can be a wonderful way to relax, express yourself, or
connect to yourself. Or they can be an addiction. How can you know the
difference?
Counseling
Issues with Recognized and Unrecognized Gifted Adults by
Mary Rocamora
"This
article describes the issues most frequently encountered in therapy
with
gifted and talented adults, particularly those in the performing arts.
A distinction is drawn between those clients who knew they were gifted
and those who at first did not."
Creative
Juice - A Dozen Key Lessons for Creative Dreamers - by Suzanne
Falter-Barns
Dealing
with the Stereotype of Underachievement
- by James Delisle, Ph.D.
The
best description I ever heard of the word "lazy" is "people who are not
motivated in ways you want them to be." This same description could
also
be given to the word "underachievement," one of the most overused and
misapplied
terms used in our field.
Ending
Procrastination - by Jim Rohn
Perseverance
is about as important to achievement as gasoline is to driving a car.
...
The opposite of perseverance is procrastination. Perseverance means you
never quit. Procrastination usually means you never get started,
although
the inability to finish something is also a form of procrastination. I'm
going to tell you how to overcome procrastination... how to turn
procrastination into
perseverance, and if you do what I suggest, the process will be
virtually
painless.
Entitled
to Be Exceptional - by
Douglas
Eby
Psychologist
Matina Horner, in a 1969 report on her doctoral dissertation research,
identified what came to be called the Horner Effect, or Fear of Success
syndrome: that women characteristically under-achieve when competing
against
men.
Feeling
like an impostor by Douglas Eby
"Sometimes
I wake up at night and go, What were they thinking? Don't they know I'm
faking it?"
Getting
Yourself Back On Track - By Dianne Hales
The
Gifted Underachiever - by Josh Shaine
Gifted
underachievers are usually lumped in with the rest of a school's
malcontents.
Teachers, counselors, and administrators look too shallowly for
underlying
factors, while ascribing too readily mental, physical, or emotional
handicaps
to underachievers. /// We need to identify the potential hidden behind
the problems of these bright and unhappy youngsters, and help our
students
to recognize and develop their abilities.
The
Inner Critic by Sharon Good
Internal
barriers, personal issues, and decisions faced by gifted and
talented
females - by Sally M. Reis, Ph.D.
Motivational
Paralysis - by Anna Caveney
Negative
self-talk - by Douglas Eby
The
Pain and (half) Pleasures of Rejection - Getting past negative
opinions
- by Todd Pitock
"Then
there are "self-handicappers," people who are so afraid of failing that
they manufacture excuses for falling short or even sabotage their own
chances
in advance, such as the student who stays out all night before a major
exam, or the person who tells everyone in advance that they don't care
about the result, even when a lot is clearly at stake."
excerpts
from article
Personality
Traits of a Real Writer -
by
Julie Hood - OrganizedWriter.com -
Tools
for the business of writing
MESSY
VS. ORGANIZED
Certain
personality types crave "messes." The clutter makes them feel
comfortable.
But it also eats away at their writing time since they spend it
searching
through piles of papers and old half-eaten sandwiches.
The
secret for the messy writer is to confine the messes to a "messy zone."
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PROCRASTINATOR
The
procrastinating writer writes the book but never sends the manuscript.
Their brilliant ideas pile up, but they never send a query. There's
always
a better time…later. Unfortunately, the procrastinator never feels the
joy of success.
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PERFECTIONIST
The
perfectionist writes the book but never finishes it. They are
constantly
revising, editing and reworking. This time eater takes away the fun of
writing. Since nothing is ever good enough, what's the point of writing
anything?
The
perfectionist needs positive feedback and reinforcement. When they hear
others say, "This is really good. You should submit it," they can
silence
the inner critic that says, "You could make it sound better."
What
is a real writer? It's actually anyone who puts words to paper and
sends
them out into the world.
And
while anyone can sit down with a word processor, only real writers
overcome
the personality traits that could sidetrack them.
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Self-Defeating
Behavior may be Ruining Your Chances of Success at Home and on the
Job - by Loraine O"Connell
Self-Knowledge,
Self-Esteem and the Gifted Adult by Stephanie S. Tolan
Self-Sabotage: The Opposite of
Self-Care
- By
Linda Dessau
Have you ever gone out of your way to NOT take care of yourself? Does
it ever seem like you're working against yourself? Do you ever ask
yourself "Why did I do that??". The dictionary definition of sabotage
is "an act or process tending to hamper or hurt" or "deliberate
subversion". Hmmm. Why on earth would we sabotage ourselves? That's a
complicated answer. And a simple one. We choose to.
Simple
and Easy Procrastination Buster - by Deanne
Repich
"I'll
do it... tomorrow." Sound familiar? Procrastination -- putting things
off
until the last moment --or beyond the last moment, is a common
problem. For
anxiety sufferers, procrastination can really do a number on us
mentally
and physically. It can put our fight or flight response into high gear
and trigger a rush of anxiety symptoms. Here's the good news:
Procrastination
is a habit that you can change!
Sleep and Creativity - By
Linda
Dessau
In my life, sleep is the number one way that I can either enhance my
self-care and nourish myself or defeat my self-care and deplete my
energy, peace of mind & productivity all in one shot.
Stop This Secret Self-Sabotage - by Guy
Finley
We're often led to act against ourselves by an undetected weakness that
goes before us -- trying to pass itself off to others -- as a strength.
This is secret self-sabotage. It sinks us in our personal and business
relationships as surely as a torpedo wrecks the ship it strikes.
Learning how to stop this self-sinking is the focus of this exercise.
Striving for achievement - an
interview
with Kenneth Christian, Ph.D. - by
Douglas Eby
A psychologist and corporate consultant on maximizing personal and
organizational potential, Dr. Christian identifies a wide range of
challenges people may face in striving for higher levels of achievement
and personal meaning. He is author of the book, Your Own Worst Enemy: Breaking the Habit of Adult
Underachievement
Summary
of Current Research Findings about Underachievement - by Sally M.
Reis
First,
it appears that underachievement often begins in elementary school,
perhaps
due to an unchallenging curriculum. There appears to be a relationship
between inappropriate or too-easy content in elementary school and
underachievement
in middle or high school. Second, underachievement appears to be
periodic
and episodic, occurring in some years and not others, and in some
classes
but not others. However, increasing episodes of underachievement may
produce
a more chronic pattern.
Supporting
creative achievement - an
interview
with therapist Lynne Azpeitia -
"The
people I see are multitalented, creative and artistic high-achieving
persons.
... "People are capable of being expressive, but often they are
interfered
with or misinterpreted in these areas. So my job is to help them
identify
when they are in that fluid and creative state, and help them look at
how
they got there, and on purpose how to make those things happen."
Underachievement
from the Inside Out - By Josh Shaine
Perhaps
the most upsetting part of being an underachiever with a lot of
potential
is the accusation, first from your parents and then from yourself, that
you are somehow doing "it" intentionally. /// It is true that these
behaviors,
some internally driven and some learned, will continue to be a part of
your life. Long range deadlines will always present more of a challenge
than you might like them to. /// There are ways to cope with the
differences
that make some types of tasks difficult. There are jobs in which the
way
you work is far more valuable than traditional academic strategies
would
be.
The
Underachievement of Gifted Students: What Do We Know and Where Do
We
Go?
- by Sally M. Reis & D.
Betsy
McCoach
The
process of defining underachievement, identifying underachieving gifted
students, and explaining the reasons... continues to stir controversy
among
practitioners, researchers, and clinicians. Despite this interest, the
underachievement of gifted students remains an enigma. This article
reviews
and analyzes three decades of research...
When
Having It All Isn't Everything by Patricia Kitchen
A
psychologist theorizes that high fliers feel oppressed by the very
achievement
they should be proud of.
Women
of Talent - Power and Leadership - by Douglas Eby
In
an article of hers, Harriet Rubin notes there can be harmful aspects to
pursuing leadership: "Many people are reaching the top, using all of
their
means to get money, power, and glory - and then self-destructing."
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