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The standout pieces are.. about women who used aloneness as a lab: painter Gwen John, poet Stevie Smith, philosopher Simone Weil, Isak Dinesen, Rebecca West and Katherine Mansfield [left].

Consciously or not, Dinnage studies these models for how to be a female artist.

> From review by Laurie Stone of the book : Alone! Alone!: Lives of
Some Outsider Women -
by Rosemary Dinnage
 
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In [the book] Solitude, the late British psychiatrist Anthony Storr points out that creativity is often linked to seclusion. Henry James, Beatrix Potter [above], Franz Kafka, Beethoven -- all were loners (though not all were content...).

The notion that aloneness entails loneliness is particularly America, says Rachel Naomi Remen.
"In many other cultures, silence and solitude are accepted and built into the days." Not only does imagination thrive but contempation is easier when the mind is uninterrupted by the activity of others.

Perhaps, Remen suggests, we should wonder about the person who can never be alone. "We all need time to hear ourselves."

> from article "Feeling Adrift?" by Gretchen Reynolds, O, The Oprah Magazine, Dec 2004

> book : Solitude: A Return to the Self - by Anthony Storr

> book : Kitchen Table Wisdom --
by Rachel Naomi Remen


image from book cover : A Victorian Naturalist:
Beatrix Potter's Drawings...by Eileen Jay, et al

   
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I believe a necessary part of the writing life is a certain selfishness -- you have the right to steal away some time for yourself and your story. It's the only way it will get done. 

The entire world will be against this (my college, which I love, has a tendency to hold committee meetings in the morning, which train-wrecks my writing); sometimes we have to tell the world to go away. And the world gets ticked off. And we write.

So. Find a place to write, and find a time -- the same time, every day. Alone. No internet. No television. Maybe some Bach (I've been listening to Gould's Goldberg Variations as of late). This is the only way to get there.

Marcos M. Villatoro   - author, host of Shelf Life on KPFK
from Thoughts on Writing page on his site

 
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Kim Novak.. has chosen to live in a wooded paradise near Ashland, Oregon. Called Windsong, it's a place she and her husband, Bob Malloy, share with golden eagles, geese, deer, elk and a host of other wild fauna, not to mention a barnyard full of farm animals.

"We have two or three hundred acres, including two large islands," she reported. ///

So does she ever get bored with the rustic life?

"Never," she insists. "We go on long rides with our horses. We kayak on the river. I cross-country ski in the winter. 

"I have my photography. I paint and sculpt and write poetry. And there are always the animals to watch."

Things haven't always been so idyllic at the ranch. In 2000, a fire destroyed the manuscript of Novak's nearly completed autobiography. 

She also lost all of her memorabilia, including letters from Frank Sinatra and James Stewart, jewelry, and posters of her films and photos. At first she despaired of resuming her memoir, but now she is back at work and has completed several chapters.

CNN.com May 17, 2004

 
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His real problem, that Jonathan Franzen lays out with care all through the book, is with a world in which the interior life becomes ever more threadbare as the means to sustain it - especially the essential consolations of serious reading - wither away. ... 

Franzen weighs the pressures upon the self in a culture that manages the neat trick of discouraging real solitude and genuine community, substituting for both the paradox of media-overloaded isolation. 

"The first lesson reading teaches," he writes, "is how to be alone." Alone yes, but as he also shows, always with another consciousness. What good fiction fosters is not self-absorbed isolation but isolation as the first step toward engaging the mind of the writer or his characters. 

from review by Richard Lacayo [Time.com Nov. 25, 2002] of
How to Be Alone by Jonathan Franzen

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National Book Award- winning novelist Franzen (The Corrections) urges readers to say no to drugs, but not the pharmaceutical kind; his opiates are those "technology offers in the form of TV, pop culture, and endless gadgetry," soporifics that "are addictive and in the long run only make society's problems worse." 

Franzen's just as hard on intellectual conformity - on academe's canonization of third-rate but politically correct novels, for example. As a serious artist, he knows that the deck is stacked against him; after all, a great novel is a kind of antiproduct, one that is "inexpensive, infinitely reusable, and, worst of all, unimprovable." 

The problem, he says, is that instead of being allowed to enjoy our solitary uniqueness we are all being turned into one gigantic corporate-created entity, a point Franzen makes tellingly when he says that while a black lesbian New Yorker and a Southern Baptist Georgian might appear totally different, the truth is that both "watch Letterman every night, both are struggling to find health insurance... both play Lotto, both dream of fifteen minutes of fame, both are taking a serotonin reuptake inhibitor, and both have a guilty crush on Uma Thurman."

These canny, well-researched essays (which have appeared in the New Yorker, Harper's and elsewhere) range over a variety of subjects... but they are united by a single passionate insistence that, in a cookie-cutter world, people who want simply to be themselves should have the right to do so. [from Publishers Weekly review]

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I am a writer who came of a sheltered life. A sheltered life can be 
a daring life as well. For all serious daring starts from within. 

Eudora Welty   (1909-2001)

from her autobiography, One Writer's Beginnings

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[What do you do to relax after a hard (or not so hard) day on the set?]

I usually lock myself in my room, unplug my phone, light some candles, and put on a little music. Everyone knows that when I am like that it is just better not to bother me. I have to admit it is some of my favorite time.

Lindze Letherman  [among her acting roles is Georgie Jones on General Hospital]

from interview by Andre Voshart, May 30, 2003 - posted on lindzeletherman.com

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Never a stranger to doing things her own way, Ani DiFranco has found herself doing them alone these days. 

DiFranco, who recently split with her longtime partner and sound engineer Andrew Gilchrist, also decided to forego a band on her current tour. 

She also chalked up another first by producing her latest album, "Educated Guess," entirely on her own -- as well as playing all the instruments herself.

Q : Your approach, your energy on the current tour and on the new album seem different. Why is that? 

Ani DiFranco: The difference is solitude. I have it in my life now, and I didn't for years, at all. 

But there's been a lot of changes so now I'm alone on stage, it's been like a year and a half, and I'm alone in my dressing room and I'm alone in my home. And there's just a lot less people around. So it allows for more contemplation. ///


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Now that I've made this record at home alone, one of the things I've wanted to do for a long time is make just a guitar record, just an instrumental record. 

I thought now that I got my engineering chops up at home and I'm kind of in the groove with my 8-track, I've sort of started working on that. 

And then I also, of course, still continue to write songs and I was thinking I might try collaborating in the studio with a producer and maybe make a different situation than I've recorded thus far. 

I think I'm at a point in my career now where I could maybe even call somebody up and say, "Are you interested in working on a record?" And they might even be.

[Assoc. Press/CNN.com February 18, 2004]

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Innovators and creators are persons who can to a higher degree than average accept the condition of aloneness. They are more willing to follow their own vision, even when it takes them far from the mainland of the human community.

Unexplored places do not frighten them - or not, at any rate, as much as they frighten those around them. This is one of the secrets of their power. That which we call "genius" has a great deal to do with courage and daring, a great deal to do with nerve.

Nathaniel Branden - from W-ISDOM list 4/08/04  //  Nathaniel Branden books

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So along with understanding what giftedness is all about, it's important to understand what introversion is all about, and that it's a normal temperament, and they really get their energy from solitude. 

So they need that solitude. That's healthy. In fact, to not make space for solitude really puts gifted women at grave risk for developing everything from depression to eating disorders, as a way of trying to create enough personal space, maybe totally unconsciously.

Kathleen Noble, PhD - from interview by Douglas Eby

 
Writing in the March 1996 APA Monitor (American Psychological Association), Hugh McIntosh mentioned the work of Canadian psychologist Peter Suedfeld, PhD who studied restricted environmental stimulation in lone voyages, polar stations and other solitary situations. 

Everyone experiences states where they need solitude more than at other times, Suedfeld said. In addition, some people seem to have a trait for solitude, chronically wanting or needing it more than others do.

from article Gifted and Stressed by Douglas Eby

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....Party of One: The Loners' Manifesto by Anneli S. Rufus

In this compendium of everyone who was anyone who ever spent a moment alone, readers bump fleetingly into Kurt Cobain, French Resistance fighters, the Lone Ranger ("Tonto notwithstanding"), Michelangelo, Alexander Pope, John Lennon, cowboys, Saint Anthony and other solo acts. 

Rufus, the books editor of East Bay Express, views Degas's plain-faced dancers as "pretty ballerinas" whom the artist leaves every time he exits his studio, and Warhol's biography as "tellingly titled Loner at the Ball." 

She chases her motif, not so much a manifesto as a cri de coeur, through an assortment of perspectives: religion, advertising, clothes, crime, art, eccentricity, environment, literature, religion and popular culture. [Publishers Weekly review]


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Everyone has a talent. What is rare is the courage to nurture it in solitude and to follow 
the talent to the dark places where it leads.

Erica Jong - from newsletter of National Association of Women Writers - naww.org

books by Erica Jong:  What Do Women Want?
Becoming Light: Poems New and Selected  /  photo from ericajong.com


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Silence has many dimensions. It can be a regression and an escape, a loss of self, or it can be presence, awareness, unification, self-discovery. 

Negative silence blurs and confuses our identity and we lapse into daydreams or diffuse anxieties. Positive silence pulls us together and makes us realize who we are, who we might be, and the distance between these two. 

Hence, positive silence implies a disciplined choice, and what Paul Tillich called the "courage to be." 

Thomas Merton - from article Creative Silence  (Monastic Interreligious Dialog, August 2001)

....book: **Thoughts in Solitude

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"Creativity is not always something to do with the arts or writing," Isabel Allende has said. "It has to do with the way you carry your life." A novelist, journalist and playwright, at age 57 she exclaims, "Now, finally, I have a room of my own where I can write.

"Silence and solitude are important to me. They weren't important before because I was trained as a journalist and could write anywhere. But as I get older, I need more concentration." 

from article Creativity and maturity  - by Douglas Eby

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In grade school I had been ridiculed for being different, for wearing glasses and using big words. ... So this year I became a member of that all-too-ominous, nonexistent, antisocial group, the Outcasts. It's not just that I'm too smart, because there are smart people who are popular. ...

I enjoy discussions in class, I like to analyze poetry. I have yet to find anyone to sit with me at lunch and debate euthanasia. So a lot of my life is in my head, in my thoughts. I've learned to handle solitude creatively.

from "Lilacs Bloom Every Spring" by Julia Rodriguez 
...in the book Blue Jean: What Young Women Are Thinking, Saying, and Doing - by Sherry S. Handel

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....books:
 

Ester Buchholz The Call of Solitude: Alonetime in a World of Attachment

"Solitude is an important route to creativity; indeed research on creative and talented teenagers suggests that the most talented.. are those who treasure their solitude. However, the artist in all of us must risk disconnection, for forging a happy and worthwhile life -- and navigating through that life fully and gracefully -- is itself a creative act." [excerpt of book, from Psychology Today, Jan/Feb.98]
Thomas Merton. Thoughts in Solitude

Anneli S. Rufus. Party of One: The Loners' Manifesto
 

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