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We're all sleep deprived. And then hormones come along and disrupt your sleep even more. Then add stress. 

Average women dealing with work, kids, a husband, aging parents, etc., have about 50 measurable stress responses a day. 

No wonder you can't remember where you put your keys! Or worse, you get in the car and can't remember where you're going!

The founder of the Stress Reduction Program at the University of Massachusetts says, “If exercise takes care of your body, meditation takes care of your mind. Practice peace. You need to find a way to cultivate a peaceful state of mind, if you haven't already...

"Meditation works, there are a lot of books out there to help you get started. Church services, or simply prayer or a solo walk in the woods can also help. The benefits are proven -- more than a dozen studies have found that people who have some kind of spiritual ritual reap tremendous health benefits.” ...

So many women say that, especially as they get to 50, they have less stress and they feel more creative and way more confident. And I agree, If I'd known that middle age would be this great, I would have looked forward to it more.


More Magazine [site] Editor-in-Chief Peggy Northrop -
from article
"Anti-Aging Secrets For Women 40 +" [CBS News]

> related pages: 
meditation.....spirituality.....maturity

     

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You can either activate thoughts that produce stress within you, or activate thoughts that make stress impossible. It's your choice.

   Wayne Dyer, The Power of Intention

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Centerpointe Research Institute

For nearly 20 years Allen Koss had enjoyed a successful career as a Hollywood television producer... “Concentration”, Joker’s Wild”, “Tic Tac Dough” ...The seams of his life split when one of his long-running shows went off the air... the less he worked, the more acute his anxiety became... 
He was stuck in a downward cycle. .... He saw an ad in Psychology Today for Holosync audio tapes from Centerpointe..

From the very first time he used them, his stress level began to decrease... the less anxious he became... the easier he was to get along with, and the more people seemed to be willing to help him.

Things began to turn around for him. Allen’s creativity returned, too. .... And the longer he used the program, the more he seemed to know himself, in a very deep and satisfying way.

> from the book The Success Principles - by Jack Canfield

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Julia Sweeney on show business being a high uncertainty field

I actually slept seven straight hours last night. And this just makes me want to cry with happiness because I have not had any decent sleep for days. ...

I figure there are two things that lead me to getting a good night's sleep. One is working out really hard during the day and the other is not having any excitement in my life or performing to do.

The excitement and performing thing is a hard one because, well... I am a performer. And that means excitement. And when I say excitement, I don't mean, y'know, "excitement"!

Excitement can mean bad things too, anxiety, worry, and just wrangling the level of uncertainty that I have in my life.

Now that I've been in "show business" for twenty years, I can see that one of its biggest plusses is also its downside.

Which is nothing is ever regular or predictable. It's a high uncertainty field.

And I think my temperament is really made for this in some ways. I can tolerate pretty high levels of uncertainty about my future and I do thrive in some ways on the adrenaline that comes with getting projects done at the last minute or never knowing if your show is going to tank or run for a long time.

But I also see that it's just killing me. Honestly, I feel so worn out. And sadly, although I have become accustomed to this uncertain, this constant uncertain life, the excitement and nervousness that comes with it is getting actually harder to deal with in my body. Which is how I get to the sleep problem. .....

Julia Sweeney - from her blog May. 22, 2005 -
Not So Desperate Anymore

> photo and quotes from juliasweeney.com

> book: God Said, Ha! : A Memoir

     

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It is also good every so often to go away and relax a little for when you come back to your work your judgment will be better, since to remain constantly at work causes you to deceive yourself.

Leonardo da Vinci

   

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Peak test performance requires today's students to be "smart" in three ways. 

"Fact-smartness" is mastering what you need to know, which is a left brain skill. 

"Test-smartness" is knowing how to use facts on tests... involves both left brain and right brain thinking skills. 

"Stress-smartness" is learning how to think calmly under test pressures, which calls into play the right brain's emotional / positive visualization skills.

Twenty-first century testing also measures the child's "whole-brain thinking" skills.

"Whole-brain thinking" goes beyond traditional left brain (verbal, factual, logical) thinking, tapping also into the right brain (creative problem-solving abilities, visual, emotional) thinking. 

To train their whole brains, we look at left brain skills ("fact-smartness" -- which in school receives the most emphasis), combined left/right brain skills ("test-smartness” plus creatively solving abstract questions to provide the correct answers), and right brain skills ("stress-smartness" -- keeping your whole brain working smoothly by relaxing.)

> from Chapter 17 of book

How the Best Handle Stress -

by Ronald L. Rubenzer, Ed.D.

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excerpt from UCLA news article : Shyness Can Be Deadly; UCLA scientists identify how introverts' stress response increases their risk of infectious disease, including AIDS 

How you react to stress influences how easily you resist or succumb to disease, including viruses like HIV, discovered UCLA AIDS Institute scientists. 

Reported in the Dec.15 edition of Biological Psychiatry, the new findings identify the immune mechanism that makes shy people more susceptible to infection than outgoing people.

image: representation of human 
immunodeficiency virus from niaid.nih.gov

..related page:....intensity / sensitivity

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A World Weary Woman is one whose characteristic response to stress is to struggle to achieve ambitious goals.

To achieve means to succeed at something that is recognized by the collective. However, she feels little joy in the process, suffering a disconnection from her feminine body wisdom and her creativity. 

Her task is to find a way of living authentically that allows her to express what awakens her heart.

Many Type A women are World Weary. They are seekers. It is this soulful quest for further development that informs this progression. World Weary Woman is not content to live mechanically. The provisional life exhausts her and she knows it.

She must detach from who she has been, in order to discover who she is meant to be. [amazon.com]

....World Weary Woman: Her Wound and Transformation -
by Cara Barker, PhD 


 
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We can't stop the negative circumstances of our time -- our cell phones will keep ringing, e-mails will keep coming, people will be rude, our children will be demanding, and bad things will happen in the world. But we can learn ways to protect our energy so that we can stay centered in dealing with the stresses that arise.
Judith Orloff, MD  - from page on her site [drjudithorloff.com] about her book : 

Positive Energy : 10 Extraordinary Prescriptions for Transforming Fatigue, Stress, and Fear 
into Vibrance, Strength & Love -- by Judith Orloff, MD 

 
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Toxic Childhoods  - By Randy Dotinga

A troubled home life can literally make children sick -- even after they become adults. Researchers at the University of California at Los Angeles have found that children raised in "risky" families -- high on anger and low on love -- were more prone to develop mental and physical illnesses later in life.

The trend held up regardless of whether the families were rich or poor. However, children who grow up in such homes aren't doomed to their fates, says study co-author Rena Repetti, an associate professor of psychology.

"There's a lot of hope," Repetti says. "All of these things can be changed. We're not saying the family environment sets chain reactions in motion that can't be reversed."

Repetti and her colleagues spent six years examining more than 500 studies that looked at how a family's "social environment influences [the children's] physical and mental health." Some of the studies followed groups of people for decades. ...

Children who grew up in "risky families" were more likely to suffer from diseases like cancer, heart disease, obesity, diabetes and hypertension. They were also more likely to die earlier, and have bouts with depression.

The researchers uncovered two major types of "risky" families. Some featured "high levels of aggression, overt conflict and expressions of anger," Repetti says, while the other typewas "cold, unsupportive and neglectful."

Repetti and her colleagues speculate that children in "risky" families may not learn how to deal with stress properly.

"If you live in a chronically stressful environment early in life, you become hyper-responsive to stress later in life," she says.

"There's a cumulative effect on the ability to respond to stress and recover from stress."

"People can learn how to cope with stress, how to regulate their emotional states, how to do things to reduce how they react to stress," she says. The results of the research appear in a recent issue of the journal Psychological Bulletin.

 (from HealthScoutNews, April 11 2002)
> related books by Alice Miller:

The Drama of the Gifted Child : The Search for the 
True Self   [above image from cover]

Thou Shalt Not Be Aware : Society's Betrayal of the Child

The Untouched Key: Tracing Childhood Trauma 
in Creativity and Destructiveness

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Dr. Weeks posits that, far from being aberrant and unhappy, eccentrics "experience much lower levels of stress because they do not feel the need to conform."

> from article Eccentricity and Creativity - by Douglas Eby

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Creators are hard-driving, focused, dominant, independent risk takers. They have experienced stressful childhoods, and they often suffer from forms of psychopathology. 

This picture of creators suggests that high-ability children without at least some of these factors have little hope of becoming major creators as adults. ....

Creators must be able to persist in the face of difficulty and overcome the many obstacles in the way of creative discovery. .... A willingness to toil and to tolerate frustration and persist in the face of failure is crucial.

Ellen Winner, PhD - in her book Gifted Children : Myths and Realities

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A third characteristic of eminent individuals is an extraordinary ability to cope with tension and marginality (Gardner, 1994). 

Tensions, both intellectual and personal, result from trying to solve major intellectual problems within a an area and produce novel work. 

Marginality is a result of living and working frequently on the edges of acceptance by the critics and gatekeepers of the talent domain. 

Only individuals who can tolerate high levels of tension can succeed in putting forth novel work. 

Eminent individuals have been found to enjoy the tensions and stresses that accompany their work. They, in fact, thrive on it. ///

As children, eminent individuals have developed coping skills to handle high levels of tension or marginality in their lives. 

Many had stressful childhoods with tense and even traumatizing family situations (Ochse, 1993; Albert, 1994; Simonton, 1992).

> from article: Psychological Factors in the Development of Adulthood Giftedness from Childhood Talent by Paula Olszewski-Kubilius, PhD, director of the Center for Talent Development at Northwestern University

Gardner, H. "The fruits of asynchrony: A psychological examination of creativity." Changing the World. A Framework for the Study of Creativity. Westport, CT: Praeger, 1994, pp. 47-68.

Ochse, R. Before the Gates of Excellence. The Determinants of Creative Genius. Cambridge: Cambridge University Press. 1993.

Albert, R. "The contribution of early family history to the achievement of eminence." Talent Development. Proceedings from the 1993 Henry B. and Jocelyn Wallace National Research Symposium on Talent Development. Eds. N. Colangelo, S.G. Assouline and D.L. Ambroson. Dayton, OH: Ohio Psychology Press, 1994, pp. 311-360.

Simonton, D. K. "The child parents the adult: On getting genius from giftedness." Talent Development: Proceedings from the 1991 Henry B. and Jocelyn Wallace National Research Symposium on Talent Development, Eds. N. Colangelo, S. G. Assouline, and D. L. Ambroson. New York: Trillium, 1992, pp. 278-297
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> photo: "Thus, rather than becoming a crazed killer or vengeful victimizer of men, Niki de St. Phalle's fury -- some of which stemmed from having been sexually abused by her father -- fostered a fecund creativity, that served her well throughout her prolific career." 

from The Psychology of Creativity: redeeming our inner demons -
an interview with Stephen A. Diamond, Ph.D.

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I love juggling both [college studies at Yale and movie acting]. I love chaos, and I thrive on stress. Having nothing to do is hell. ... 

When I get tired of work, I get to go back to school. When I'm tired of school, I can work. One is an escape from the other. The freedom gives me such a peace of mind. 

> actress Jordana Brewster  / Instyle, Fall 2001

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People suffering from anxiety disorders often have a physical overreaction to stress.

This overreaction occurs because your body perceives everyday events and situations as threats to survival. In an effort to protect you, your body triggers the fight or flight response even though no real danger exists.

There is some indication that an overreaction to stress is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. However, we don't know what initially causes this chemical imbalance.

Can I change it?: Yes. What's important to realize is that if you overreact to stress, you can learn to change it, no matter how it began.

You can learn deep breathing techniques, relaxation techniques, and techniques such as the Anxiety Pyramid (all included in our course) to train your body to react more calmly. 

> from article What Causes an Anxiety Disorder? - 
by Deanne Repich, Founder of the National Institute 
of Anxiety and Stress - see her site : 

ConquerAnxiety

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